social skills do they improve when youve been drinking ?

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It used to help, but it's gone the other way entirely. Alcohol and social situations - Expect my social skills to crash and burn via zoning-out or increased anxiety (as if that wasn't an issue already).

My social skills seem to improve when I drink, provided the other people are drunk too.

I guess it's not really an improvement in social skills. It's more an environment where people expect and accept that they will act in a socially inappropriate manner -- and blame it on the alcohol.

my friends tell me they like me better when i'm drinking because i'm funnier and a lot more relaxed.

When drinking the whole social contract changes, any thing that would be put down to AS can be cleverly put down to boozing instead. Hence you get away with more.

I think that one important question to ask about the situation is whether everyone else was drunk too.

It's helpful for introverts but I think it has more to do with being less anxious or inhibited.

You also have to keep in mind that other people are less aware of social rules and personal boundaries when they're drunk. If everyone else is drunk you can be goofy and say inappropriate things without people judging you as much as if they were sober.

If I get drunk, I get sick and that doesn't help with my social skills at all . On the other hand something like one to two glasses of wine help me relax and brings out my sense of humor.

I see nothing wrong with having a drink once in a while if it helps you relax. For the last ten years or so I had the occasional one or two drinks to loosen up, but if I don't have to be in social situations I don't drink for months in a row so I don't think I run the risk of becoming an alcoholic.

I can talk a lot more easily to people after 1 or 2 drinks. I find that's better than getting massively wasted, though I'm young and I kind of do become wasted. Not always, I think the last time I was out I had 3-4 drinks.
I really wish I was like that sober. Just talk my mouth off and not feel any anxiety. I'm not suffering from much anxiety now but I do get a blank mind when trying to talk to someone.
Although my coordination is worse when drunk, and the slight injury feels 10 times worse.

alcohol does not improve my social skills.
it improves my social kills.


normally, i am not inclined to talk to people in real life. on this forum i am verbose in almost every post i make, but that is just writing to an anonymous audience, so i do not have to see how readers perceive what i say.
in real life (i will not abbreviate) i have many thoughts to say, but i am never bothered to express them to anyone i see.
the ideas i have are tortuous for others to follow, and they lose interest rapidly in my words if i try to tell them anything.
so i have long since learned not to talk to people in any other way than curtly.

when i have had alcohol, i do not restrict my words and ideas from spilling out, and people are quite confused and can not keep up with what i am saying.

i do not drink alcohol except on rare occasions.

an example of restriction versus non constriction:
i used to get fish and chips every monday at 1.30 pm from a little shop up in the mall.
they always respected that i did not say much.

one monday morning i speculated about fish being cold blooded and scaly, and being similar to reptiles, and i thought of their smell and i decided that i could no longer stomach fish until i forgot about that thought.

a girl came over who is a drunk, and she enticed me to have a 3 bourbons and coke.
then we went to the mall and i ordered a steak sandwich from the little shop.

the girl said "no fish and chips for you today sir"?. and i went into a tirade of analogies between fish and reptiles, and i digressed into prawns being insects, and she wanted me gone and i did not see it.
the girl i was with saw it and steered me out of the shop.
she went back and ordered my streak sandwich, and i was unable to prevent a verbal tsunami if i opened my mouth.

i do not like alcohol because it makes me spill out, and others have no way of keeping up.

Sedation makes me more asocial. I lose care that I ignore people.