do you think people with AS talk about themselves too much

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Arguments and topics do tend to come off a bit one-sided here. At least that's my observation in many ongoing topics. I myself am guilty of it. I think what's helped me slow down is when my family points it out...that is whenever I rattle on and on without letting them give input or their side of the story. I also had a teacher that lectured me on this little tic of mine.

Yes, aspies can be very egocentrical. But I think some of us are capable of looking at it from the big picture instead of focusing on just the minor details.

I actually find it very difficult to talk about myself. My interests, however... are a completely different story.

I remember one particular nasty person who hated me for reasons unknown told me that i talk about myself too much.
I can't really keep a conversation going unless I talk about myself. When I'm cut off from the world all I have is me. That person said 'the world doesn't revolve around you." But I disagree. I'm alone a great deal of the time, so in a way it does revolve around me. I'm not saying that in a selfish 'i'm so great kind of way', like she probably thought I was.

I think people with AS are very vulnerable to this social faux paus.

Think of it. People with AS are intensely focused on things that interest THEM. When talking with others, what happens when you are talking with someone who wants to talk about what interests them but not you?

I think it's a natural default to talk about ourselves because we will talk about what interests us. This can be seen as offensive and self-centered.

It's been a struggle to participate in conversations of things that don't interest me, but I've tried to make more of an effort to better get along with others.

Yes, I tend to talk solely about myself and my special interests. It's not that I don't care about how my friends' and family's day went, I just never think to ask. They sometimes get frustrated by that, but, in general, they're tolerant of it, because they know that it's the AS and that I can't help it.
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Also, considering our problems reading body language, what might also come across as selfish is our incessant rambling while someone is more than plain uninterested, but upset/troubled/emotional and in dire need of doing some rambling themselves.

What, now isn't the time for my blabbering? You're depressed and on the edge of a nervous breakdown? Sorry, I didn't notice.

Yet another reason why we might seem egocentric.