Do you smile at NT's when listening?

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I generally wear a smile when people are talking to me, until they tell me what they're talking about isn't funny.

lol i do that too sometimes, but it's cause i feel nervous and uncomfortable when they're staring at my face so the laugh usually comes automatically.

I thought you were supposed to smile at people though?
I chuckled when I read the bit about facial muscles hurting from holding a fake smile for too long, I hate that.

I do never smile at NTs.

They tend to get it wrong and think you want to have sex with them.

YUCK!! !

I smile most of the time when talking to people. Working at McDonalds for almost 5 years will do that to you.

"Shallow" socialization has become easier though. Now, people think I'm friendlier than when I was younger and didn't smile at all. Or smiled at inappropriate times.

I try and smile, usually I smile at them when they are smiling at me. But sometimes smiling can be hard.

No, unless it's something that I like or think is funny.

I use a smile to try to ease an intensive discussion point that I am trying to explain but am not able to get across. The smile usually makes me feel better if I think the conversation with the person is not going well. If I get a smile back or not, it is usually the end of the conversation anyway so it is usually clear in my mind the point I was making was not relevant anyway.

I can sit in meetings, and just go to another world. Sometimes it catches me out when a question comes up. … but most of the time I can "periphery" listen - picking up enough key words to turn the question back into another question. It has made me believe that I managed to get out of a jam more than once. I must admit I only tend to slip into this second world when the topic really is of no interest or I feel the topic is just pointless and does not need further discussion. I suppose I should learn to do otherwise.

I really hope my posting is relevant because reading around the aspie subject today for the first time in my life has opened another world to me - my world. I think I am able to start accepting who and what I am a great deal more easily. I hope everyone else on this site has a similar experience and notion.

Believe it or not - I would like to write a comical production on Asperges Syndrome. Because really, when you have AS and you realise you have it, there is so much that is indeed funny. But that's for another day. Today has been a big day for me and pulled many different emotions.

Apologies if this reply is in the wrong post - I have probably drifted - but I am just finding my feet around this -

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I've a really high smile line, which gives my smile a psychotic look to it. I'm also missing front teeth. This all makes me quite concious of my smile. People have laughed at my "crazy clown smile" before. Thus, me smiling at someone does not put them at ease.

Usually I laugh when people talk to me if something is funny, rather than smile. If I'm talking to someone and we aren't having a funny conversation then I don't smile.

I do this, but it's a sort of fixed smile to show the person I'm paying attention (even when I'm not). I feel really silly doing it but if I don't smile I end up looking very blank which then gives the impression I'm not listening. My cheek muscles ache after a while and then I don't know what to do with my expression so I look downwards as if I'm reflecting on what is being said.

No not really.