Do you take things "too personally"

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I always take things too personally, especially in regards to my artwork. I always feel like if someone criticizes my artwork, then they're calling me a bad artist.

i feel your pain.

Me too!

Because I am such an open and honest hearted person I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. There are times when I don't but even then I feel I am leaning further towards cold-heartedness. But on the whole, as a result of my personality, I do tend to take too many things too personally.

I try very hard not to, but I do take things (too) personally.

On the flip side, I can sometimes be too brutally honest to others without realising that they might take it personally themselves. Really weird...

do i take things too personally? yes

I don't want to and I am trying to work on that, but I do take things too personally.

I have taken things personally in the past.

It seems sorta hypercritical for someone to give you a list of wrongdoings. Usually what they do is talk about individual things. Like for example, the book. She should have opened it and said, "I like your handwriting but when you do this, make sure it's this way" or something like that. It makes hearing the criticism easier on the one being criticised.

In all honesty, a long list of percieved tresspasses is enough to knock anyone's self esteem, even a self confident stoical type with a great attitude would be left feeling a bit angry and would probably complain about whomever gave them the list. People usually grumble about the one doing the excessive criticising, maybe call them a foul name or two as well, which is why reasonable people avoid the situation to begin with by not listing. Listing is like a huge, unconquerable pile of incorrections and it can leave you feeling totally inadequate and inept.

You are right to feel the way you do after getting one (like you can't do a damned thing right. Ever.) and if the lady is a nice, decent, person she will tell you politely what needs doing while building up your confidence by pointing out what you are doing right already and approaching it from a positive angle instead of saying "you didn't do this the right way".

BEcause of the abuse I have suffered as the result of my disability I have grown incredibly sensitive to any sort of criticism or teasing that I feel touches upon my Asperger's. I got in trouble at my last job for not handling criticism very well... I had a meltdown during one unfortunate episode where my boss called me into her office before I even had a chance to sit dow nand started grilling me on some BS that didn't strike me as all that important or noteworthy. I started stimming and had to aks to be excused so I could get some fresh air... a few weeks later, I lost that job.

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Certainly do!! Too self conscious I believe.

I take EVERYTHING personally. If people don't return phonecalls or text messages right away, I assume it's because they're either avoiding me, or I've done something to offend them....