What does it take for you to change your opinions about peop

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What if these people who didn't like you came to hurt you? Without friends, who would help you?

Actually, friends would help you just because they are your friends. That is pretty much the exact measure of a friend.

I'd be surprised if you have "henchmen". We don't live in a bond movie.

You seem young, and it's obvious that you've been hurt in the past. Believe me, I've been there. But throwing up walls isn't the path to a happy existence. Having people you can count on can go a long way toward healing old wounds.

Unrelated: "Ad Hominem" =/= personal attack. Ad hominem is a logical fallacy where one attempts to disprove a person's argument based on the person making the argument, rather than addressing the argument itself. This usually will involve a personal attack, but the two terms are not synonymous.

Zyborg, if you've not read "Ender's Game", I suspect you'd love it.

Well, you don't want to be feared. I'm often feared by many people, and I still get a lot of ridicule and a lot of people not taking me seriously. It's like if they fear you, it just makes you the bigger target. It's not that they are scared of me hurting them, it's just that I'm kinda domineering and can be pretty intimidating without meaning to be. People fear that, and they don't like it. Respect out of fear is only superficial, for those cases when it does work. Hint: Offense forces someone to use their defense.

If you really want a militant attitude, you can find people respecting you and taking you seriously when you display character. I personally just try to do the right thing. Many people respect that. I don't do it for their respect. I do it for my own respect. Here's some military attitudes: Death before Dishonor. Honor, Courage, Commitment. Integrity First. Excellence in all you do. Service before self.

My attitude towards people fall in their intentions generally. If they do the right thing for the wrong reasons, I do repsect that more than if they didn't do the right thing at all, but if their intentions are in the right place, they earned my respect. I don't know how to tell people to find that. I'm not sure I know it or if it's just in my mind. But actions do speak louder than words.

Oh yeah, and I notice people take me more seriously when I don't monologue. Sometimes it's not that they don't take one seriously as much as they have the attention span of Elmo. And make sure what little you say means something. If you are constantly spitting out some one liners that make people question that you may possibly be a sandwich shy of a full picnic, then they aren't going to take you seriously. That means talking on their level rather than your preconceived idea of how you think you should talk. It's basic survival. Move, adapt, or die, scientifically speaking at least.

Henchmen is your illusion, my guess, from personal experience in how you perceive a team of bullies. People who bully are hiding a bigger problem. Usually they are fat, have a learning disability or a bad GPA, come from a lousy home, or something. Whatever is making them be the bully is a much bigger problem than what you could ever provide as vengeance. Kharma comes back.

If you were to focus your attitude on helping people, you might just someday find out why they are worth helping. My suggestion, find God. But if you think I'm totally off the rocker for saying that, then at least consider reading up on the Tao. Christianity, when taken seriously unlike many churches out there, will teach you to overcome the world through love. It's the rules of the spiritual world. Because it's about spirituality, it's the strongest more long term teaching. The Tao, it teaches you natural law. It's not as strong as spirituality, but it yields instant short term results (those you will see in your lifetime with earthly eyes without need for intuition). The beautiful thing about it, it's about going with the flow and then re-directing it within that flow. So you aren't creating bad or good as much as shifting what you don't want in your life out of it. It's main concepts are going with the flow, being content with who you are as opposed to what you have, and the beauty of the uncarved block. A great book on it is The Tao of Pooh for major concepts, and a good movie is Jet Li in Twin Warriors to see those concepts in martial arts battles and training.

You are obviously REACTING to the world around you. There's no logic in that. Find a way to RESPOND to the world. But if you really want a world where the strong survives and might is right, then I suggest moving to a ghetto. Puerto Rico has some good ones if you can speak Spanish fluently. As strong as you may think you are or aim to be, I really would hate to throw a lamb into a pit of wolves. My suggestion is to find direction. You want to be the leader? Then you have to know where you are going, and it appears to me that you don't have a clue. Don't just accept any direction in your life. Find your own. Check out some books on different religions and philosophies. It will take years to figure out who you are in that world, but it's worth the effort.

A friend who helps because they love you is going to provide better help than a guy who helps because he's afraid, or because he's getting paid (same thing as helping out of fear because both intentions are selfish in nature whereas the friend is selfless).

There's very few people am have bad views of,as am respect everyone as equal at the start,it takes a lot to really change it,the ones that are thought of as bad have all done very nasty things to am,and they're all council support staff-will never forget the things those on bad list have done.