Do you have any aspie traits missing?

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30 Mar 2009, 6:05 pm

I don't have the motor clumsiness associated with it. I did gymnastics and martial arts and other sports (mostly those two though which focus a lot on balance... but notice how those are individual sports). I'm a pretty good dancer (although my fine motor could be better... I have dysgraphia). Also, I've heard it said that we can't use metaphors. I can. I can extremely well.

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30 Mar 2009, 6:09 pm

I don't have an 'Aspie' traits but I do have some personal 'characteristics'. Is that what you're talking about?

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30 Mar 2009, 6:20 pm

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Yes, I had delayed speech. Even though the diagnostic criteria says people with AS don’t have a speech delay. I didn’t start talking until I was 3 and a half years old. I guess it’s possible I may have PDD-NOS, but every thing else seems to indicate AS.

What do you mean by delayed speech? Was it that you couldn't talk or didn't talk until 3.5 years old? I believe the DSM criteria focuses on "language acquisition" (see DSM comments) and the ability to communicate, as opposed to whether the child actually does communicate verbally.

For example, my Aspie son would rarely talk when he was a toddler/preschooler and then only a 1-3 words at a time. People would often ask me if he could talk because he would go hours without saying a word. He had a huge vocabulary and knew how to read and spell well beyond his peers (which he often demonstrated nonverbally). He COULD talk; he just didn't talk unless it was absolutely necessary to communicate something that he couldn't in another manner.

My parents told me a said my first word at about age 3, and started connecting words and small simple sentences by about 3 and a half. So I guess it would be your first option, I couldn’t really talk until about 3 and a half. I guess I would have had to have been able to communicate non-verbally at least a little bit because I never officially got diagnosed with any kind of autism spectrum disorder.

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30 Mar 2009, 6:20 pm

I don't know whether or not I have trouble interpreting body language or inferring emotions from facial expressions. I don't know how to tell whether I do as well as an NT or not. Being unaware of the words for what I'm seeing in someone's body expressions doesn't necessarily mean I'm not processing and reacting to it. Even NT's aren't very good at explaining specific signals because they process it all subconsciously without any need to catalogue it in their conscious mind. Only scientists who study body language actually catalogue it.

I'm also not sure if I 'stim' or not. I guess it depends on how you define stimming. I know I used to always run my hand along the walls when I was younger and I got criticized for it. Can't think of anything like that I do now though.

I also have good fine motor function even though my gross motor function is rather uncoordinated.

Can't think of any other symptoms I don't have. The rest apply fairly well.

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30 Mar 2009, 7:01 pm

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Instead of avoiding eye contact, at some point in my adolescence I became fixated with eye contact, and make it almost unwaveringly.

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I was a little older when this happened to me, late teens to early 20s, but it actually ended up becoming more of a problem than not being able to make eye contact was. I had to train myself out of it.

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30 Mar 2009, 7:48 pm

RoisinDubh wrote:

makuranososhi wrote:

Instead of avoiding eye contact, at some point in my adolescence I became fixated with eye contact, and make it almost unwaveringly.

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How did it become a problem? I have found that it can be too intense for some, and when teaching there are some cultural issues I've encountered with eye contact... but it's better then spending my life looking at my toes, in my experience. I imagine it is something different for everyone, and given differences in age, gender and size, overt eye contact can be seen in different ways.

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30 Mar 2009, 7:52 pm

makuranososhi wrote:

RoisinDubh wrote:

makuranososhi wrote:

Instead of avoiding eye contact, at some point in my adolescence I became fixated with eye contact, and make it almost unwaveringly.

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Once I'd establish eye contact, I wouldn't break it. Couldn't. It made people even more uncomfortable than it did when I couldn't look them in the face at all. I'm now able to make 'normal' eye contact in some situations, in others, I've learnt to fake it pretty well.

I dated an Aspie for a while, with whom I'm still friends, who has the staring issue. Even though they know why he does it, quite a few of my NT friends are really bothered by it.

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30 Mar 2009, 8:03 pm

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The only trait that I can't recall ever being brought to my attention (thus probably not what I ever did) is the so-called "stimming".

I never, ever in my life stimmed. It actually gets on my nerves and is something I ask everyone else around me to stop -- it happens often around me. People don't realize they do it. Then again, I've met a lot of self-diagnosed OCDers and ADHDers. Maybe some manic-bipolars, too. I feel like the only one who tries staying calm.

So, trying to stay calm -- that's more of my thing than a nervous act, like stimming.

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30 Mar 2009, 8:03 pm

RoisinDubh wrote:

makuranososhi wrote:

RoisinDubh wrote:

makuranososhi wrote:

Instead of avoiding eye contact, at some point in my adolescence I became fixated with eye contact, and make it almost unwaveringly.

M.

I have this same problem with eye contact for most of my life I made little eye contact and then , I starting forcing myself to make eye contact. But once I started making eye contact it was extremely difficult to break it. It seems to make other people uncomfortable or think that I'm angry or confrontational.

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30 Mar 2009, 9:22 pm

im not typically smart and i dont use hard words.
i fail almost everything at school but at least i try.

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31 Mar 2009, 10:46 am

I don't get "sensory overloads" , excpet for one when I was 8 but that's it.
I usually don't mind change and I love trying out new things and ideas.
And I didn't have a problem with imaginary play when I was little, and I used to play house until I was 11

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31 Mar 2009, 12:34 pm

I also did imaginary play, though I guess it was different from the stuff most children do.

I am not interested in "parts of objects".

I am actually better at understanding concepts than I am at memorizing dry facts.

I did have trouble with eye contact as a child; I think now I do quite well with eye contact, though there are certain situations, or certain days, where I don´t want to make much eye contact.

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31 Mar 2009, 1:01 pm

Don't have a good long term memory which is supposed to be an aspie trait. Both my short and long term memory are bad. Only thing I can remember well is music/sounds.

Used to have the staring issue but noticed that it made people uncomfortable. Have started avoiding eye contact instead and it seems to be working better than staring.

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31 Mar 2009, 2:00 pm

I've heard that aspies don't have a sense of humor, but I have always had one, because humor was the only way I could get other kids to like me as a child. I never really learned any other way to relate to them. If you are funny, people don't always notice your weirdness as much. They must suppose the weird behaviors are just part of the silly antics you do.

The drawback to using humor as a way to cope socially, is that sometimes humor is inappropriate, and then I don't know what to do when that happens. Once, my friend was in the middle of sobbing her personal problems to me, and I responded with a joke that was completely random, not knowing what else to say in such a situation. The result was that she assumed I didn't care, so apparently I wasn't such a good friend after all. It basically ruined our friendship, how sad.

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31 Mar 2009, 2:02 pm

i dont flap, be over good at math but thats about those

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31 Mar 2009, 2:14 pm

I can't do math very well. Most aspies are good mathematicians

I stutter and mess up when I talk.

I don't really talk about my obsessions. Instead I talk to myself. I try to be as normal as possible in conversations with others.

I have gotten better at socialization. I am growing out of my Asperger's

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