mastik wrote:
I was thinking that apies might be slower to pick up what the politically correct answer to my question was. He "should" have said "yes I love him" and seemed confused at my reaction. I won't do it again, needless to say. We're all learning by doing, I get the feeling.
It's not as much about understanding political correctness, as accepting it. A lot of aspies refuse to lie even if they know this will get them in trouble. I know better than telling my mother I don't love my sister but she knows better than asking. I still have a very hard time lying and prefer just to avoid answers that will upset people without actually lying.
It's very uncomfortable for me when I get the feeling others are using me to preserve their own delusions or to avoid acknowledging real problems. If someone asks if they are fat I won't say yes, but I would think something along the lines "Yes, you are fat and you know it very well, but you need me to tell you different so you won't feel guilty for not doing anything about it".
I hope this is not offensive, I thought explaining this kind of mental process might help you understand your son bluntness.
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07 Apr 2009, 10:47 pm
