Growing Up with Asperger's Syndrome

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Very good video. I relate to a lot of it. I spent all my breaks in elementary school swinging too.

For what it is worth, I spent MY recesses the same way as well. I was lucky if I could have someone join me on the teeter totter, I had to push the merry go round, etc... While I was still young, the swing was the thing I liked the best. Other than that, I was usually just a "teacher's pet". Of course, I DID draw schematics, etc... Things got SO complex, and I ended up having a lack of space, that I never built most of the stuff. Oh well, ICs and computers ended up making much of it somewhat archaic.

And I ALSO hated P.E.

Thank you. I'm glad so many people could relate to my story.

I relate to all the faces being a blur in a crowd.
It gets better when I get to know people over several years though.

However, I didn't ask the teacher about how I should approach people, because I didn't know I had to ask!

I was so confused because I honestly couldn't see what I was doing wrong.
I was honestly acting like I'd seen my other relatives act, so I didn't perceive that there was a problem. Acting like that was normal for me. In fact one of my relatives said that the problem was in fact the other children deliberately ostracising and bullying me. He believed that the real blame rested with the environment of the school and the kids. He said that he never believed that there was anything wrong with me, probably because we shared similar traits.

Certainly, at school, different methods of social communication were used. It was like stepping into a different country compared to home.

Having lots of chatty crowds and group based learning can't have helped either. I was frequently upset and overwhelmed by the high amount of socialising and conformity required. At home, I was allowed to play on my own and no one really minded as such.

I was utterly baffled when the other children looked at me funny and my Mum was called in.

I only began asking questions about how I should approach people when I was about 21 years old. This was after I'd been reading student study guides and was baffled as to why detailed instructions for making friends and how to interact in groups were not included. I was also baffled as to why people on other forums had the completely opposite problems to what I had.

They had problems because they had so many friends and were having problems with relationships they already had and studying. They were overwhelmed by the relationships and social/emotional games.

I had issues with basic social interaction and getting started on making friends. I felt lonely and left out. Lone book studying, by contrast, I tended to do rather well at with practice.

Thank you very much. I really liked your video. I could relate too (I'm a 38 year old female) and I had not heard of the 1/3 to 2/3 age thing but WOW, does that really fit me. I've always felt much younger (or less mature?) than I am, even though on the outside I seem mature to others.