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06 Jan 2006, 6:29 pm

pemdasi wrote:
Sorry to post again, but something else just occured to me.

People tend to like to hear/talk about their selves a lot. If, in a conversation, you ask them questions designed to let them talk about theirselves they come away thinking that you are a good listener/etc. I've found this helpful in a couple ways, one learning how others think and two, not being thought of as an egotist.

Perhaps saying the other person's name in conversation has something of the same effect?


Yes, this seems like a quite logical reason.



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06 Jan 2006, 11:15 pm

I rarely address people, too. I also have extreme difficulty remembering people's names. Actually, in a given classroom, I remember the names, but not the faces they're attached to!

I wonder why Aspies often have this difficulty with people's names, what we know of the brain's functioning and Asperger's that would account for this, as I see it very often, for instance, on forums like this one.


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06 Jan 2006, 11:46 pm

I never really thought about it before seeing this thread but I don't seem to use names much in conversation either. I even try to get people's attention without using their names. For some reason I'm kinda good at that.

As for remembering names, I use the standard trick of repeating a person's name back to them when I'm introduced; it seems to help me remember names better.


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