thejackal221 wrote:
itsallrosie wrote:
The most frustrating thing for me is not knowing for sure. When I tell people they always tell me I'm wrong. I find people are keen to criticise me in relation to my lack of organisation, my inability to cook or do anything practical, my monologuing and always turning the conversation to my current obsession, and they will call me a know-it-all behind my back. But it can't be anything to do with being autistic, I'm just not trying hard enough. Besides, they say, everyone stims. Everyone has problem areas. Most people forget names and faces. According to them (mostly family) I'm just too shy and anxious and need to get over it.
I'd just like to shut them up, to put it bluntly. They probably wouldn't believe it then.
I do read on forums where people celebrate their diagnosis anniversary and many feel so relieved to at last KNOW.
This was exactly why I got diagnosed. Knowing has helped open a lot of doors for me. I am now able to get help with finding a job that I don't get achous at (sorry about spelling I dont have access to a spell check at my work.) also I can get help with college. Something I was scared to even think about. But again if you don't accully need help you problaly shouldn't get the diagnosis. It can look kind of bad on a resume or background check.
That is exactly why I have a diagnosis, but have not and will not disclose it to anyone official unless at some point down the track my life falls off the rails and I *need* to. I do NOT need unnecessary discrimination in my life from future employers, the banks etc.
Maybe one day the world will be more aware, but at the moment there are simply too many negative stereotypes of us due to the fact they are uninformed. And until then I do not wish to invoke these stereotypes before people even meet me, it would just make life doubly hard to disclose.
30 Apr 2009, 5:36 pm
