Anger and Aspie's

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I find it really hard to control my anger. I often do things reflexively like punch something or throw something, without thinking.

And I get high and drugged up on all that adrenaline, and can't get myself out of that rage...

I can bottle up anger for ages. I can be wanting to shoot my self out of frustration due to being so angry, or someone and the person won't notice. The same with happy. I pretty much always have the same facial expression other than laughter.
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I have problems controlling anger, usually when at home or out with family, I get so mad, I don't explode or throw things, I end up crying and/or shouting then I go really stroppy and snap at people/ignore them and basicially act like a big kid. I wish I didn't, because it's a real strain when I feel anger coming on around friends and I'm trying not to burst into tears.

Yeah I hate when I'm trying to make a point and all someone does is keep saying 'calm down, calm down'. Telling me to calm down isn't the same as refuting my point.

if i get these meltdowns for me its more like headbangin, even i know i will get restrained because of it i need some way to cope

Some great responses here.

Anger seems to be the one emotion that I express with clarity and regularity.
It also is the strongest emotion that I show outwardly.
In the past, I've gotten into rages, and done some unfortunate things, which later I can't even believe. Anger blinds me to the present and affects my memory of past events.

I can calm down by removing myself from the situation, and taking a walk outisde. I have to be alone, out in Nature, and then I can properly re-align my head.

Playing/Listening to music is also very helpful. It acts like a vent for the confused mix of emotions.

the only thing worse then being told to 'calm down' is being told 'don't you think you're over-reacting?' (or a variant there-of), as though my 'over-reaction' means what was done wasn't bad. I hate living with people. I can tell them 10 times 'please don't leave the cheese on the counter' and lose my temper on that 11th time... and it all becomes my fault. They don't care that I'm right, just that I'm yelling at them.

Rosie...if anything that I've passed along helps (after having gotten it from someone/somewhere else myself, of course!), then I'm glad. I've had good teachers...

That "What Color Is Your Mind?" book is excellent. I've used it, I've gone through it with one of my sons when he was having some anger "issues" during his teen years, and shared it with other people along the way as well.

If nothing else, it helps to know that we all have our "days," and the liberating concept of being in control of one's own behaviors and attitudes is...well...quite liberating.