Is this typical aspie stuff... ?

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They said "Jack Off." I bet they got a good kick out of me buying it.

i get this all the time, when i told people that i scored highly on several online IQ tests they told me it must be wrong or i must have cheated!
in my last job it took a couple of months to get comfortable enough to talk to people and had one of my workmates say to me that they were impresed and thought i was very smart, but before thought i was a dumbass.

Justin

Usually, "intelligent", often with qualifiers like "very", comes to mind when people think of me. I used to be gullible about things, until I realized that other people were not always nice. If anything, I am suspicious of others' motives when they are charming. (I'm never charmed. Charm plays on empathy.) If I hear a claim that seems ludicrous, I investigate it.

If I'd heard someone say this I'd have understood by the inflection and facial expression that the speaker was mad at the cat, but reading it, I had to read it twice, think about it, read on to the end of the page and then read it again twice before I got it. That was last week. This week I read it again and couldn't remember why the cat was going to die. It took several readings. And yes, a formal IQ test put me in the high intelligince range.

So I acknowledge I do recognise facial expressions and inflection and always have, but the facial recognition part of my brain doesn't work which has always caused me much anxiety. I assume the face processing part of the brain deals with both expressions and recognition and mine manages one but not the other.

As far as gullibility goes, my brother always took delight in sending me on false errands then shook his head as he told me how gullible I was. He still did it last time I saw him at our dad's funeral. He got so well practiced at deceit that he fooled the hospice into letting his relatives stay overnight without charge, then got the bill sent to me for his accomodation, and at the funeral meeting he ripped our mother off by getting her to hand over the signing rights to him even though he didn't have executor rights, then withheld the death certificate while he tried to sweet talk the bank manager into letting him act illegally as executor, but the bank manager was not fooled. There is worse on a business level but I won't expose him here even though he works for a well known personality. I feel like my gullibility helped train him to become a con man as he had to hone his skills as I got better at building up my BS detector. But I don't blame myself as he has to answer for his own dishonesty. I'm now much more aware of people trying to fool me but have still been tricked when the perpetrator seemed genuine.

But it's not about us being gullible, it's about some people being rude, mean, dishonest and insensitive. We need to remember that and not beat ourselves up because we can't understand how a few other people's twisted minds work.

Oh man I must still be gullible or was that naivity because there was no tricks involved?


I was at the AB/DL gatheirng and this guy has done a few jokes with me. He said something and I got confused and he said he was just kidding. At 4:45 he said the gathering ends at 5 o clock and we had to be out of there by then or the state park officers will come and arrest us and I got confused because why would they arrest us for staying later than five. So I asked him that because it didn't make any sense and he laughed and said he was kidding and we didn't need to be out of there by five.

Thanks for all the replies, that's REALLY good to know!

I was honey-blonde as a child, but my hair turned to a mousy brunette when I got older. So I dyed my hair blonde and then told people I did it so that my hair colour would match my intelligence. (The real reason was because in WWII movies, the archetypal Nazi secretary wore blonde hair fastened in a tight bun, and looked assertive, logical and pretty, and I wanted to look like that.)

(PS: In case there's any confusion: I am not an aspiring Nazi.)

Yes. To all. Welcome "home".

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Even amongst aspies I am naive.

This is why I hate getting phone calls at work asking me to explain something. Normally I have to prepare ahead of time if I'm going to explain something (training is one of my responsibilities) or write it out. Otherwise it ends up becoming a jumbled mess.