Making opposite-gender friends

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Dianitapilla, my first queston was "what the hell is gesticulation?" but I can look that up. I will study your post some. (And bring my dictionary)

I fail at the "Don't talk to him alone,(I was at his house last night playing video games with him, it was awesome... His mom came in so she probably got the wrong idea.)" "Don't touch your hips or legs (I always have to pull my pants down on the legs because they bunch up and stuff), "Don't touch your hair (I always mess with my hair, it's weird feeling, like it's not mine)," "Don't look at their mouth/look them in the eyes. (Self explanitory, plus I am fascinated by eye colour. I am always like. "Look to the left" so I can look and see what eye colour people have xD)."


At least last night wasn't awkward. xD We spent the entire time mostly on our respective computers. I am trying to learn Team Fortress 2, anyone want added to my friends? I am not very good yet and my computer sucks. So I will likely get you killed. But at least I would have more than one friend. xD


Back on topic. I will read your post a couple times and ask him what he thinks. (I do that, ask people directly about things I read on here. I worry that because we are aspies/auties that we might have it all wrong and be giving wrong advice, no offense. That is why I avoid giving advice. Still, the advice here is pretty reliable and quite helpful as it is written in a way I understand, except gesticulate. I am guessing it is in reference to how clearly one speaks the letters of each word.)

Hi there!

I'll save you the google-ing:
gesticulate: To make gestures especially while speaking, as for emphasis. To say or express by gestures. Basicly the better you move your mouth and tong to have a clear speech, the better you gesticulate.


I'm happy for you! you just did it the same way I would have done it ) after all we are aspies) the best friendships I've had are the ones that started like this, very chilled and relax. Actually I have friendships that are really Aspie like but my NT's friends like it because of how comfortable they can feel with some one like us.


Now I'm going to continue with an pointless irrelevant long story fulled with unnecesary details and only cause I'm aspie


With my best friend at school I was going to his place once every week for one year, we were closing his dorm door and he would lie faced down in his bed and I would lie facing up on top of his back and we would talk and/or sleep like this. In the beggining it was kinda awkward and we were both thinking that the other would think wrongly that it was a flirt, so there was some sort of sexual tension but the bad kind of. So one of the first weeks we were talking and I said it, "whenever I have found a very cool friend I feel comfortable with, I fear that this guy is going to understand it wrong and it's going to think I like him... I feel that with you as well" He replied with a huge smile "me too! I've been exactly fearing the same with you!"he was so notoriously relieved that I(! !!) could notice. Our friendship became even more comfortable than it was before

I forgot the detail that his hole family was at home the hole day so granma, aunt and uncle where not thinking but knew as a fact that we were having something, but that kinda something that is more than just something. Then after that we were all having dinner together it was funny to watch them and guess their toughts in beggining

Now a days even though we live in 2 opposite worlds, we still have that link and feel free to talk about our personal everything . (as different as he became a scientologist therapist traveling in a Scientologist boat around the caribean islands brain washing people, while I live now in the netherlandst, ADHDer (diagnosed and under coaching), taking dextroamphetamines & melanine every day, and now on a cue for AS diagnosis).

Cool he!?!

Any way! give your friend my greetings.

Haha, the bed things sounds like something I would do. I would totally cuddle with a non-dating friend. (I am very cuddly when I am very close with people. But people I don't know can't get within three feet of me, and I mean that.)

It sounds like you have lots of fun.

My friend, Erin, was telling me about when I met her. And I only had one other friend at the time, well... Apparently As I was talking with her in gym I told Erin that "I would have to talk to Lisa because she is the leader." Erin thought she'd joined a cult (This was me in 7th grade)

I don't even know why I would have the idea that anyone would be the leader. xD HAHA