symptoms of asperger syndrome really defined

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I have problems in both areas. I always thought my issue with accepting criticism is that I lived a life where no matter what I did, it was never good enough, so I developed a resentment to being criticized. I also have issues with "constructive criticism" because most people do this touchy-two-shoes nonsense where they never come out and say what is right and what is wrong and you're expected to just figure it out.

As far as being critical of others, I just can't seem to find a way to nicely say what needs to be said. I can pick my words carefully, but it always offends people. I thought that was because people just don't know how to handle honest criticism.

i only have problems with criticism because i was completely destroyed by vicious NT teens over the space of 7-8 years...i feel every criticism is now a personal attack...it actually has very little to do with AS (apart from, obviously, AS being the reason i was treated so badly in the first place) x

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Ditto here. This is why I rehearse criticism before uttering it.

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thanks yall for responding.................please note that not everyone obviously will have these symptoms, some have more, less, or none........remember autism is a syndrome, hundreds of symptoms that affect everyone in a different degree or not at all..


social symptoms of asperger'd disorder continued

3-pouting, ruminating, fixating on bad experiences with people or events for an INORDINATE length of time........this symptom is moderate to severe.....................omg, lol............until i was about 35 yrs old i had a big chip on my shoulder, lol....i could never let go, or forgive anyone who had injured me in any way, or injured my family.....i would keep the fire alive and even resort to petty and vindictive acts to nurture and keep me boiling, lol....THANKFULLY, one day in revelation, i broke down into tears and prayed to god, and i asked that everyone forgive me for my actions and i forgave everyone who had harmed me......let me tell you, such a weight was lifted off me and a crushing burden disappeared..................hatred is an awful thing, forgiveness is soooo sweet and infectious.....don't be a dummie like me and wait until you are 35 frikin yrs old, rofl


4-abrupt and STRONG expressions of likes and dislikes......mild to moderate symptom...........this is me all the way................i either REALLY LIKE something or someone.......or i REALLY DISLIKE something or someone.......not many in betweens....i am still like that though i try to tame the dislikes, lol

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omg, you know me

lmho, there are 135 of these different symptoms covering social, physical,cognitive,and work characteristics, lol...it should be a great thread, lol

do give us a link...

Wow, I never had #3 to any degree. This is the one that makes me think I might not have AS. I'm certain I don't have it to the degree that others do.

#4: Absolutely true. Usually I have a very logical reason for liking / not liking someone. I don't dwell on people I dislike, though; I generally just stay away from them if I can. There are some pretty big shades of grey, however, especially if I can get past a first impression of someone and really get to know them.

I have #3 and #4 big time. I never forgive or forget, and I either absolutely love or enjoy something or I just as completely hate it or has no interest at all.

3. Absolutely. I spend an inordinate amount of time ruminating on bad experiences and as*holes who criticize me or do not understand me. I am actually very caring, but there are some people who have been so completely hideous to me and used my ASD against me (my literalness, making jokes about me in groups that I do not get, and i smile like a buffoon and then later realize they are roasting me...) that a wish for revenge against them is forever burned into my psyche.
And the reality is - I always get them in the end - because I am a thousand times smarter, and because of heightened verbal acuity. I can be the personification of "war with words.". I do so with one decimatingly short, blunt, honest one liner that flaws them forever more. I go where angels fear to tread and I am known to say tings no-one and i mean NO-ONE else will say. May I say the active use and implementation of this particular strategy is reserved for pure dickheads.

It would be nice to maintain an air of enlightenment on this front, but alas, it is not to be. I am however improving, and can find forgiveness here and there.


4. Strong likes and dislikes - without a doubt... with everything. And this includes people.

At 29 I still suck at giving and receiving criticism. I get extremely offended when criticized, and I accidentally tick people off when giving criticism. In fact this happened about 30 minutes ago, I told a girl I work with about something she did wrong. I tried to be nice about it but I never come across that way. Looking back I can see that I probably did sound like I was being rude, and I didn't mean to at all.

Yes, I seem to have every one of these qualities as of late.

Many times, my inability to be baseline about my opinions has forced quite a bit of judgment on to myself; I had an old friend who wrote me a harsh letter explaining all of my faults, and one of the points he made was that I either hate something or love it, with nothing in between. He really, really didn't understand Autism, no matter how hard I tried to explain it.

1 - I'm nit-picky as hell, so I'm usually not offended or surprised by criticism. If I'm not expecting it, I'll get annoyed yet still try to be consciously objective about it. lol

2 - As far as giving criticism, I've learned to be tactful, though my tact isn't so graceful. Like, "You did a great job, but you can definitely get it perfect if you did this and this. But other than that..." In my mid teens it would be closer to, "It'd be better if..." or "You should've..."

3 - I live by the rule "forgive and forget", though I rarely get through the 'forget' part. Bad experiences are like random flashbacks I have to block out. As far as stupid and embarrassing memories go, they trigger vividly in settings similar.

4 - Not me. There's an unspoken hierarchy of caring.

3: Not so much, experiences just kinda wash over me.

4: Doesn't apply to me at all, my attitude towards things, events and people is usually indifferent. Unless they step out of line of course.

I have those 4 things I think. I hate 1 and 2 because it makes me a hypocrite. I would like to be able to take the sort of criticism I give but I'm so damn arrogant and oversensitive.