Aspie eyes

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Some people love my eyes, others are scared of them, and some people think I look perpetually stoned... I don't know why.

I never even knew there was such thing as aspie eyes.

I don't think I have them. I will though I tend to not smile in pictures.

I was told I had stoned eyes.

when I was in college, one person told me I had "bedroom eyes." I had no idea what they were talking about.

I can't even comprehend the idea that eyes can smile. They just look like eyes to me. Sometimes they are dilated, sometimes less dilated. Sometimes flecks become visible and other times the surface looks placid. I can understand natural responses to the environment like dilation or squinting, but I don't know how it is that I could tell something expressive from looking at them. Up to now I've always operated on the assumption that it had more to do with facial expressions, and the amount and timing of eye contact.

Of course I've also heard all of my life about how unfocused, distant, or dead my eyes look. They find it unnerving and I have had to make up for it by becoming a better conversationalist over time.

I practiced talking to myself in the mirror and imitating how other people looked when they talked. also practiced sounding the way they sounded when they talked, to modest effect.

Did it work?

to modest effect, I notice it at least in my bimonthly aspie meetup, I function better. also notice it when I deal with cashiers at wallyworld. but some traces of "uncanny valley" persist no matter what I do. but I try anew every day. I'm stubborn.

It's hard for me to look anything other than blank.

In photos I always try to smile but fail miserably, and end up looking stupid.

Sometimes I just can't do emotions

I look something like one of those Claymation armature-equipped gizmos they make those stop-motion movies with, IOW my expressions are a hair delayed and a hair off-kilter, contributing to the uncanny valley.

I've been accused of

1. Looking high

2. Staring intently

My 'high' eyes look like dossa's uploaded picture, except mine are blue. When I'm interested in something or otherwise paying attention, I take on the 'deep stare' look.

My son looks the same in almost every picture I have of him since he was little. He pulls the same face. It is hard to get a decent photo of him because he has a nervous habit with his eyes where he squints and rubs at them constantly when he's uncomfortable or anxious (people used to think he needed glasses) so the time you do get him with open eyes the look is either the 'stoned or drunk' look or he's not looking directly at the camera at all.

He avoids photos these days completely so I have stopped asking him to pose.

When I was younger, I was curious whether “the other person” could tell if I was looking into their eyes (or not).

So, I decided to perform an experiment, where I would look into the mirror and tilt and/or move my head and eyes -- up, down, left, right. Of course, I quickly discovered that using a mirror to figure this out was quite difficult.

I have no pictures to share, but I have the stare. Like I am a million miles away. Which usually I am. A guy at work asks me all the time "you sleeping?". I guess that's why. People also ask me what's wrong and what I'm sad all the time.

This really made me smile! I've been told a number of times that I seem "spaced out", "dreamy" or like I'm about to "disappear into another cosmos" haha.

In the past I was told that I had very bright, healthy, youthful-looking eyes. Whenever I look at them in the mirror, however, (yes I am able to do this), I think they look angry and intense. It's the eyebrows, they're in a permanent downward slant.