Raleigh wrote:
Shadi2 wrote:
Raleigh wrote:
Shadi2 wrote:
No, she never told me I was stupid, she was (seemed) nice, and told me nicely (the way a person who actually cares about your well being would do) that I should not leave my purse opened and unattended, that someone might steal. But a few minutes later, while still in the store, I caught her telling another person that she had told a "stupid girl" (me) not to leave her purse unattended (and other nice comments about me).
When people give you an advice, it doesn't automatically mean they think you are stupid, most the time they are just trying to help.
People can tell other people things without saying the actual words. By telling you what she did she was trying to make you aware of your stupidity. That was her purpose for speaking to you. Do you see that? She probably spoke nicely because she thought you were a little slow. Smart people are generally aware of the existence of thieves and don't leave valuables lying around. Granted, she shouldn't have spoken behind your back but I wouldn't have thought of her as a hypocrite because she already let you know that she thought you were not too bright.
Maybe I've been around teenagers too much. I remember saying things like, "If you jump off the roof on your skateboard, you'll break your neck." When really I was saying, "Mate, you're twelve different multicoloured kinds of stupid if you're doing that kind of s**t."
Sorry I started this. I was kind of joking to begin with. Jeez, that backfired, didn't it?
This whole conversation is stupid.
Bring on the freakin dragons.
My husband probably thinks like you because anytime I tell him something he says "do you think I'm stupid?" lol.
But no, giving an advice to someone doesn't mean you (I mean "you" in general) think they are stupid (or at least it doesn't when I give an advice, I just want to help, I don't usually think the person is stupid), it means (or should mean) that you want to help and/or care about their well being. If you don't care about them and their well being why would you even waste your time giving them advices. Again there is a difference between doing stupid things once in a while (who has never done something stupid?), and actually being stupid, and a difference between telling someone they did something stupid, and calling the person stupid. Anyway, I was just very naive, at the time I thought most people were honest so I didn't even think that someone could steal my purse.
And no problem about the conversation lol, I just think you shouldn't assume that when someone gives you an advice it means they think you are stupid. Like when my husband gives an advice to his son, he doesn't think his son is stupid, he just cares about him and wants to help.
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26 Dec 2014, 7:30 pm
since up to that point I was just being silly. "Learn" to read 
