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17 Oct 2015, 10:44 pm

Bully me, and I lock myself in my room and won't come out, except to go to the bathroom. I'll have a stash of junk food in my room and will pig out on that, since junk food is my coping mechanism.



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17 Oct 2015, 10:48 pm

sonicallysensitive wrote:

In formal logical terms, you're stating all A are B.



Actually, so are you. :D Or rather, all A are C (see my paragraph immediately below this sentence) which is actually even more far-reaching than "all A are B" even should "all A are B" have some logical support.

i.e. All limiting is forcing (erroneous from the get-go but let's follow this through). All forcing is bullying. Ergo all limiting is bullying.

In formal logical terms, you're stating all A are C. Or to break it down, all A are B and all B are C, ergo all A are C.



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17 Oct 2015, 10:53 pm

NowhereWoman wrote:
Force isn't always necessary in order to limit someone.
Agreed. And I don't believe such a claim was made - it at least wasn't on my own behalf.

NowhereWoman wrote:
Some people self-limit. Some people have something explained to them, and decide they need to limit what they had been doing.
In choosing which words to speak we are imposing a form of limitation by leaving out all other words we could use.

NowhereWoman wrote:
Telling someone not to bully is telling someone. It isn't forcing. It's speaking.
And as such, can be ignored.

NowhereWoman wrote:
"Stamping out" bullying may be seen as force by some bullies who refuse to listen to reason and refuse to learn empathy, to other bullies "stamping out" bullying by taking a stance that it is never acceptable will make them see the light, everyone is different and your assumption that "stamping out" as used by Kraftie meant force of some specific kind is just that, your assumption.
No, not an assumption of the implication of force.

At least, not of physical force.

You're assuming what you think I'm assuming.

Someone telling me not to do something could be seen as an act of force - not physical force, but still an act of force.


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Many people speak of stamping out or eradicating bullying. That could mean anything, from drastic measures such as punishment, to simply spreading knowledge and having schools, workplaces, etc. adopt 100% no-tolerance policies against bullying, which may be enough for some would-be bullies just not bully...their choice.
Ergo the burden lies with Kraftie to define what he means by the abstract and non-specific term 'stamping out'.

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Bullying doesn't have to include limiting. It can but it doesn't have to.
Can you give an example of bullying that doesn't include limiting?

NowhereWoman wrote:
Not all limitation is bullying. As GW pointed out, there are many limits put in place upon us by law. They are not by definition bullying.
I agree not all limiting is bullying - but that doesn't mean all bullying isn't limiting.

You're committing a basic fallacy there.


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It's illogical that keeping someone from hurting me would be bullying simply because that means I'm limiting the person. Where's your reasoning here?
It isn't illogical. It's very logical.

Your denial of my want to hurt you could be seen as restrictive of my ability to express myself. In this sense, your denial of my want to hurt you is hurting me. Your intent to hurt me - whether indirect or not - I could claim - is a form of bullying.

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Just forcing in and of itself does not define bullying (even though bullying can include force).
Of course.

Some A are B
Some B are C

Doesn't mean some A are C


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Rather, forcing with the intent to abuse, injure, intimidate, frighten, cause distress, etc. defines bullying. We have many laws in place that intend to limit but do not intend to injure, abuse or frighten the person. We also have many social mores in place that intend to limit but do not intend to injure, abuse of frighten. I am not saying every one of those laws is infallible nor that social mores are always infallible or even, over time, appropriate, just giving the dividing line between "force" or limitation overall, and force or intimidation when it comes to bullying.
Now you're hitting the nail on the head - without a legal definition, the issue of bullying will never be resolved.



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17 Oct 2015, 10:55 pm

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Yeah.....to the bully. If you think it's towards you, you're nuttier than I thought.


Ad hominem?

Have you read Alex's rules?

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17 Oct 2015, 10:57 pm

Aristophanes wrote:
Lintar wrote:
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Criticize the author all you want, but realize the ideology she represents is actually the majority. The hierarchy actually encourages bullying. If you're a bully that means you're strong and strength is valued by the hierarchy, likewise, if you're easy to bully then you're easy to control as a low level drone. This is why a person that retaliates generally gets punished more than the aggressor-- retaliation is an attack on power, which is an attack on the hierarchy itself.


The 'ideology' is objectively wrong though, and the fact that the majority support it, if in fact they actually do, is completely irrelevant. If this is what the 'hierarchy' supports, then we need to destroy it, not cave in to it.

Resistance is futile.


No it's not. Perhaps 'they', whoever 'they' are, would like us to believe so, but no. No one will ever make me feel powerless again, and if they try to they will get what they deserve :twisted:



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17 Oct 2015, 10:58 pm

Sonicallysensitive, you're beginning to contradict yourself. It was hard enough attempting to have a "debate" per your parameters :) considering the base "debate" hinged on a false premise (the forcing/limiting/bullying model); now that you're self-contradicting, it has become impossible. Unfortunately you're erring quite a bit as far as formal debate goes (or even casual debate or heck, casual, reasonable conversation). And adding deliberate distraction via contradictory comments meant to take a person off the original track and onto a new one isn't helping matters.

I doubt you're doing all this out of any sense of malice, but rather, you simply aren't very learned as far as debate goes. Therefore I'm going to have to bow out - there's nothing logical to hang onto and answer from here, making this not only a non-debate but not even a reasonable discussion. :) (IMO.) I will leave you to your own thoughts and conclusions, you have a right to them no matter how you came about them and whether they're logical or not.



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17 Oct 2015, 11:00 pm

NowhereWoman wrote:
Sonicallysensitive, you're beginning to contradict yourself. It was hard enough attempting to have a "debate" per your parameters :) considering the base "debate" hinged on a false premise (the forcing/limiting/bullying model); now that you're self-contradicting, it has become impossible. Unfortunately you're erring quite a bit as far as formal debate goes. And adding deliberate distraction via contradictory comments meant to take a person off the original track and onto a new one isn't helping matters. I doubt you're doing all this out of any sense of malice, but rather, you simply aren't very learned as far as debate goes. Therefore I'm going to have to bow out - there's nothing logical to hang onto and answer from here, making this not only a non-debate but not even a reasonable discussion. :) (IMO.) I will leave you to your own thoughts and conclusions, you have a right to them no matter how you came about them and whether they're logical or not.


Nice sidestep :)



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17 Oct 2015, 11:00 pm

Oh brother!

Read carefully....can't you take a joke?

Where's the personal attack?

We're here to screw the bullies, not to screw ourselves through logic.



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17 Oct 2015, 11:02 pm

B19 wrote:
Something to ponder:

Bullying was a factor in 2/3 of the 37 school shootings reviewed by the US Secret Service


No link?



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17 Oct 2015, 11:04 pm

sonicallysensitive wrote:
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Sonicallysensitive, you're beginning to contradict yourself. It was hard enough attempting to have a "debate" per your parameters :) considering the base "debate" hinged on a false premise (the forcing/limiting/bullying model); now that you're self-contradicting, it has become impossible. Unfortunately you're erring quite a bit as far as formal debate goes. And adding deliberate distraction via contradictory comments meant to take a person off the original track and onto a new one isn't helping matters. I doubt you're doing all this out of any sense of malice, but rather, you simply aren't very learned as far as debate goes. Therefore I'm going to have to bow out - there's nothing logical to hang onto and answer from here, making this not only a non-debate but not even a reasonable discussion. :) (IMO.) I will leave you to your own thoughts and conclusions, you have a right to them no matter how you came about them and whether they're logical or not.


Nice sidestep :)


If you read it again and take the time, you may begin to understand each part of what I said above.

Other than that, I really can't help you and I can't play your game with you...I am sorry. Sometimes debate is fun but it has to have some logic and consistency to it. Otherwise it's just a lot of word tricks and attempts at "winning". Some people probably like to play that game and someone may be along shortly who will be a willing partner for you in this, so I'm not saying it's inherently wrong or anything, just that I am not interested. I am very sorry.



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17 Oct 2015, 11:08 pm

I think S.S. seeks to toy with us, then laugh himself to sleep.

And we are indulging him--hook, line and sinker.



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17 Oct 2015, 11:12 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I think S.S. seeks to toy with us, then laugh himself to sleep.

And we are indulging him--hook, line and sinker.


I think so too, Kraftie. :lol: :lol: It may have been a game of some sort. I can't always tell people's motives but it feels game-ish to me and maybe was for fun? I don't know.

People have fun in all different ways - some of which may seem pretty odd at times!



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17 Oct 2015, 11:19 pm

What the F#$%? Does no one ever wait to sober up before hitting the SEND button on the articles they type?

Trying to put a positive spin on the pain inflicted by unevolved, bestial gorilla-people that find diversity too threatening or offensive to tolerate is not defensible.

:idea: I guess if they really want to make our lives a living hell our only recourse is to stop doing the historical 90+% of the research and development involved in improving their lives through technology. Once all their fossil fuels are depleted and nature is working against instead of for them they will realize why we were here 8) :mrgreen:



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18 Oct 2015, 12:41 am

sonicallysensitive wrote:
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Where does it say you have a right to bully?
Where does it say I don't?
What is 'it'?

"It" means the laws of whatever land we're talking about. In my case, let's say U.S. laws since I'm more familiar with those. You were the one claiming that preventing you from bullying exerted a force over your right to bully. Since you are claiming the right to bully, you would be the one having to prove the existence of that right. I am presuming you meant the legal right. If you meant the moral right, that's something so subjective that you can take virtually any position and claim the moral high ground. That's why we'll have to go with legal right, since it's less complicated. Technically, there is no law against bullying, since my point is that bullying is a moral judgement. There are laws against specific acts, like assault and battery, extortion, and so on. Please don't ask me to quote them. I can't be bothered.
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By this line of reasoning, all laws that limit another's actions are bullying.

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Yes.
By that line of reasoning.
That's my point - that interpretation will determine moral perception of a thing-in-itself.

Please explain. You feel laws that prevent you from doing what you want are bullying? That must be very frustrating.
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Even in the most democratic of societies, we do not have absolute freedom. A collection of people got together and decided that some actions are forbidden, and have particular consequences for the transgressor.

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The point here being?

The point is that we can't do what we want. I don't see that as bullying. I see it as the contract that society forms to prevent anarchy.
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"Bullying" is a moral judgement on a criminal act, unless the bullying in question is purely verbal (and even then, I'm not sure). The criminal act is assault and battery, extortion, threats, theft, or slander.

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Therefore 'verbal bullying' violates no law, as long as it does not commit a form of slander?

So far as I know. But I am not an expert in the law. However, schools may make their own code of conduct that is more expansive.
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The "bullying" label comes from our moral judgement: a strong person is hurting a weak one, and this is considered wrong.

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Considered wrong by whom?

By the majority of society. Admittedly, these judgements are all arbitrary and subjective, but it's the best we have to work with. I expect you don't want someone hitting you over the head and stealing your stuff either. We draw an arbitrary line somewhere and decide that something should be stopped.
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What is strength, and what is weakness?

Presumably the strong can hurt the weak by doing something against them such as taking valuables such as money, injuring them physically, or harming their reputation.

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You would have to prove that you are weaker than the people preventing your bullying
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Why?
And of what benefit is it in terms of the burden of proof for someone to have a position of alleged inferiority?

How is a position of weakness defined in an issue that - if verbal - is based, by your own definition, solely on morality?

Strong and weak are admittedly subjective terms. Even the idea that the strong should not hurt the weak is an arbitrary idea, since "strong" may not mean a physical attribute, merely an ability to dominate the will of another. Not all societies have held this notion. That's why we prosecute actions that violate laws instead, with specific parameters.

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and that you are hurt by your inability to bully others.

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Hurt in what sense?

I don't know. You're the one claiming to be bullied if you can't bully others, so you must have some idea of how your being prevented from bullying others is hurting you.

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(GodzillaWoman - please think before 'jumping on the bandwagon' - I'm adopting a stance for the sake of debate, as opposed to promulgating a view I hold as my own.)

You'll have to tell me what constitutes "jumping on the bandwagon." I'm upholding the same stance that I ever was, not for the sake of debate, but because I believe it. If my views happen to coincide with others, it's not because I am impelled to follow a crowd.


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18 Oct 2015, 12:44 am

I think this is one of the links to the SS review Lintar (summary points)

https://www.illinois.gov/ready/plan/Doc ... ervice.pdf

And this is the full report: - see page 19 for the very high percentage of killers who had been bullied:

https://www2.ed.gov/admins/lead/safety/ ... report.pdf



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18 Oct 2015, 12:53 am

sonicallysensitive wrote:
Given your philosophical bent, allow me to adopt a scholarly stance for a second or two in relation to some of your points:
Aristophanes wrote:
The hierarchy actually encourages bullying.
Evidence?
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If you're a bully that means you're strong
You'll surely be aware of the syllogistic fallacy you're committing here.

Therein lies the problem, you're assuming hierarchy works on logic. Hierarchy works on power, and power alone-- logic has no place unless it benefits the hierarchy. When one is under the control of a hierarchy there is no such thing as syllogism-- no "assumed premises that are true", there is only what the hierarchy dictates is "true". It's a social construct, and as such freely moves outside the bounds of science, math, and even logic.