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He is bigger than that pictures looks He can pick up three bags of feed at once that's 150 lbs. I have a pair of Adidas sports slides but hate them can't walk in them they fall off (I guess it's a red neck thing ) so I decide to just be the weird kid that wears one boot besides whats wrong with being different LOL

Ok first new question Johnathan ask to learn to rope so he can rope with us.
so my question is first he seems to learn by listening and roping is move visual thing or that's how I learned when I show him things, he drifts off it seems like. and you have to practice a lot on the ground he catches the dummy 9 out of 10 times but on horseback its very different (you can lose a finger if not careful)I know he wants to he talks about it all the time but at the same time when we are doing ground work he seems disinterested. I talk to the guy that's been helping me since dad passed, he is in his 70's and has no patience don't get me wrong he is a very nice guy but not a teacher for beginners and the other guys I rope with are teenagers full of themselves. (most arena cowboys are, as my dad called them) anyway any ideals I get frustrated and don't mean to He has talent just bad habits.

Second he got lost last night He went to get food at the concession stand and could not find his way back to the trailer (there is about 150 trailers here) and they all look alike anyway he freaked out and now won't get 10 feet from me or mom He keeps saying don't be mad and please let me come again of course nobody is mad we all get lost at these things there is a lot of people some of the guys are being jerks because a lot of people seen him freak out. I guess my question on that is,Is it better to ignore it are ask him about it. one of the rodeo judges found him and brought him to the trailer. The judge said he has daughter with Rett syndrome not sure what that is. But Jonathan is acting very different.

Teaching anything to most autists involves going over the same instructions and training several times. The reason is to combine what we hear, with what we learn and do. In autism, it is asking a lot to combine these talents, but it does come together with practice. Add some compliments in your teaching (you probably already do), and I believe Johnathan will enjoy learning the important lessons.

Yes, getting lost is terrible for an autist. Are the trailers numbered in sequence or have certain numbered areas to help make finding the same trailer twice a little easier? If so, explaining to Johnathan that your trailer is No. 32 in parking lot C (or something like that) would help him understand the scheme. If not, you could describe to him the major landmarks between your trailer and the arena or concessions areas. Also, if you have cell phones, he could call if he gets lost again. But, as you wrote, he is probably going to stick to you like glue. That isn't a bad idea for his first time "at the rodeo." Hehe.

I wish I was at a rodeo this weekend. I used to go to a few in Utah when I was working for Robert Redford. I guess I was cheering for the animals too loudly, and Mr. Redford turned around to figure out why I was cheering when the riders did badly. Oops. I wasn't meaning to insult the riders, just that I saw it as a competition between the riders and the animals.

Rett Syndrome is a separate neurologic disorder among girls with a few characteristics similar to Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), but isn't a part of the spectrum. Some individuals with Rett Syndrome might have ASD, too.

I see it as a contest between me as the animals to a pretty even match. most times.its first come first serve and you want to park as far away from the arena as you can cause it is loud and hard to sleep. I told him take a horse and the dog with him cause they know where they eat and will all ways find his way back. That's what I do I get lost all the time at these things.Now he wants to fight everyone that gives him a hard time over getting lost .I'm trying to explain they are not worth his time they pick on me all the time it's just guys my age.I don't think there trying to be mean just guys.belive me I caught it big time this weekend LOL.

In case I have not said it, I want to thank everyone that has helped me learn and listen to me talk about all this and interacting with me and so on. I looked at alot of sites before I got up enough nerve to do this most site people were very rude when you ask questions.To be honest when I told mom what I was doing she said "Son don't wear your feelings on your sleeve" but anyway thanks I'll stop rambling now

You are very welcome. And, you aren't rambling. You are learning some skills about identifying and helping autists who live among us all. That's all. And, they are good skills, like your knowledge about animals and how they act and react to humans.

They had a BBQ and fireworks show with getting lost not a good day.How do you not let it all get to you I mean Johnatan is so freaked out not sure what to do he is back to acting like he did when I frist meet him we called his Grandparnets they said O we just ignore it when he does tha,t I know that's not the answer.He just wants to fight and stay in the trailer. I won't repeat what he said but I guess I'm wondering is this normal to go backwards every now and then. I mean it's been a great weekend other than me being given a hard time and I'm good with that Just looking for ideal of how to help Jonatan.

He's not so much going backwards, as taking two steps forward then one step back. But it seems that thanks to you he's making progress. Patience, kindness and understanding are the best way to help him. So hang in there, you're doing fine.

His behaviors right now might be his way to calm himself by stimming. It might appear strange or even stressful, but it could be his way to reduce stress. He needs to work his way through it especially since the teasing he got probably made him feel at fault for doing something embarassing or wrong. By this morning, you should see him appear more calm. The way to avoid letting it all get to you, Cheyenne, is to watch that he doesn't hurt himself or others, but otherwise, just let him do what he wants. Give him some room and time. It corrects itself. You have done everything right.

It's better to day I don't rope again till 4:00 so we are going to just hang in the trailer and stay under the air conditioner.the guy next to us brought a couple of star wars videos and he loaned them to me jonathan is in way in to star wars so we are going to watch them, all thought I may melt down cause I'm not a star wars guy and hate being in side LOL.This has been a weird weekend in more than one way.

I am glad things are back to normal -- as normal as a day full of Star Wars can be!

well home ,long three days competing and being the first without dad but was a experience in more ways than one. Johnatan ask me how my NT brain worked I never thought about it before how do I explain how my brain works compared to his when I don't understand how his works and not sure how you would explain that anyway. I guess I'm asking can some of you explain how yours work so maybe I can figure out how to explain it by reading examples.

Hmm. That is difficult to describe well. I am at the mild end of the spectrum but with extreme systemizing, obsessing and some routines. This means that my brain looks for ways to be as efficient as possible. I almost always drive on roads according to size in descending order (freeway, expressway, neighborhood streets and residential roads, in that order). Even when my friends tell me it takes longer than their desired route, my brain usually forgets to accommodate their suggestion.

My brain thinks similarly about most things including cooking, shopping and visiting friends because I follow mental "To Do" lists about most of my routines. My routines are systemized in these ways to keep me focused and on-track with my goals. For example, when I try to be brief when I am talking with a friend, my brevity confuses me as much as a noise like someone else talking over me. Both confuse and distract me.

My friends remember to not interrupt me, and I promise to be as brief as I can. Most of my family members don't do this, and I end up getting angry that they confuse me. It affects all my activities and routines. For this reason, I consider my books to be better friends than other humans. But, I enjoy humans who can be friends.

not sure i get it ok when your talking to your friends what do you see I mean like do you see there face or them and everything behind them

Well, most autists, including myself, don't make constant eye contact (I do glance at others, but only enough to see if they are still interested). So, I end up looking at their faces for a couple seconds, then I look at things around us, then back to their faces for a second, and so on. Meanwhile, I am reminding myself of things I need to do. If it is a conversation, I remind myself to ask questions, be brief and don't get too far from the conversation.

So, between not making too much eye contact, reminding myself of the things I want to do (while talking or driving or whatever) and still having an interesting conversation, it is pretty exhausting to keep up. The explains why so many autists (especially young kids) have meltdowns. We don't want to seem stupid or wrong. It can be sooo frustrating. Non-autistic individuals have it a lot easier. Hehe!

so you do a bunch of things at once but have to think about each one over and over as you do them while I guess I do the same thing but not think about it. Is it kinda like when the guy that helps me with my roping says Cheyenne stop overthinking and just do it, He would say you overthink things. I know I'm not getting this fast but I am working on it.

Also Jonathan's Grandparents told my mom with school being out at the end of the week, he would be acting different for a while because it was a big change in his routine and I should be ready but did not say how I should be ready.They told mom johnatan biggest problem is he is spooled kid and his mom never taught him how to act and they was to old to do it now that the autism is a excuse for bad behavior in their day you didn't act that way. my point they are no help in understanding They are not mean but just old and don't get it. so I'm not being mean just part of the problem I think they had him tested but don't agree which I don't get.