It is hard to find people locally, especially if you are at all different. But I have known plenty of straight NT women and men who take years and years to "find someone".
Personally, if you want to find people you connect with, I would go online, go to a dating site that supports your area, and make a posting, it is anonoymus, so you are not going to "embarass" yourself, and leave a message. If you are up to it, send out replies to women you think sound interesting! What is the worst that can happen?
There are some men in particular, they work off a philosophy, you ask a 100 women, 200 women, 300 women to have sex with you, chances are one is going to say yes! That is the one that matters, not the 99, 199, or 299 that said no!