What do you hate the most about having autism/aspergers ?

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I hate the social awkwardness. Not knowing how to respond or what to say in certain situations, the self-concsious feeling that I get whenever I interact with people, the feeling that I handled an interaction poorly, etc. Also, if a chore or responsibility requires me to take initiative and interact with people, it simply does not get done. For example, we have a very nice house, but it isn't decorated properly because I don't know how to do it myself and I don't want to hire someone to do it for me. That would require talking to people to get recomendations, initiating contact with a design firm, making appointments, interacting with the decorator. It's too overwhelming and I'm not comfortable doing any of it, so it's eaiser to just let it slide.

You know the saying "I'ts not what you know, it's who you know"? Well it's true.
I maybe smart but I have trouble socializing with others. It's extremely frustrating. How can I get anywhere in life if I don't have connections?

Feeling the abrasive pressure to censor myself from talking about my special interests too much, even on WP.

I hate it all... I'm so sick of it.

I hate that people treat you different once they realise you have it

How about when people think you are using it as an excuse after you have said you have it or explain you have it right after you do a social blunder? Same as if people take what you said the wrong way so you try and explain you have AS so communication may have been your weak point when you made a post and then they go on thinking you used it to be a jerk.


I haven't had this happen to me but that is why I don't say anything about me having it because I am afraid of this.

I think people can use your AS as an excuse to attack you and just say you're using it as an excuse so they don't have to accept it and put up with it. They just want to hate you and if you have a disability, then they have to go easy on you and they don't want to do that so they would rather pretend you're using it as an excuse and that you did it on purpose.

I hate that whenever I have a different interpretation of someone's actions, my gf implies that I must be wrong because I have Asperger's.

I have to put more thought into it than most, so I cannot do it "in the moment," but I've gotten quite good at using reason to deduce the motivation behind people's behavior.

I can do something similar through extended eye contact. I cannot read emotions still, but I can read motivations. Like, I can't tell what they're feeling, but I can guess what they're thinking, and to a very accurate level.

Maybe being blind to the emotional side makes it easier to bypass those signals and see beyond that.

It is extremely tiring to do it though, so I'd rather not do it unless I really have to.

This may not be compatible to the question, but I hate the way we always look like we're in the wrong just because we've got AS. It's like, when an NT is rude, Aspies have got to put up with it, but when Aspies are rude, we've got to keep it all under control, so that we don't upset any NTs. It's really frustrating sometimes when you think about it. I think other people can be a lot ruder than me. Personally I don't come across as a rude person, and I've learnt how to not be rude. But when I go out, I come across a lot of rude people, and nobody says anything about it. Or when people speak rudely to me, the answer is always, ''well you probably said something rude first or made them feel like that'', as though I'm always assumed I've started the argument up just because I've got AS and they haven't. But that's not always the case. NTs can be rude when they want - it's not always us that make them be nasty or rude or ignorant. It's usually the other way around!

What do I hate most about autism/asperger's?

The cactii.

I hate the way Aspies are born to suffer. What I mean is, (not sure if this is true or not) but I read somewhere that people on the spectrum are more likely to react to certain meds like anti-depresants and other meds what can help with their anxieties and coping. By reacting I meant having the runs or lack of sleep or something like that, and if some of us can react like that, then it's not worth taking the meds, well not for me anyway. It will defeat the object, because I try to avoid stomachaches of any kinds and I HATE getting the runs, so that will make me more resistant to go out in case I get the runs in a public toilet(which is one of my fears), or if it affects my sleep then I will be all messed up, because sleep is important to me, so I think AS is nature's mistake and a way to make people with it suffer.