Women who have aspergers: A non-issue for them

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I wouldn't mind one either but I decided three years ago maybe I shouldn't date an aspie because of my last one. But he just happened to be ignorant and never listened when I would correct him and he jumped to assumptions so quick and thought he was right rather than it knowing it's his speculation and the fact he always worried too much what people thought and acted like he could read their minds and knew what stranger's lives were like without even knowing them. It was crazy and maybe I should have added instead, never date anyone with low self esteem. Plus he didn't know how to be frugal so things wouldn't have worked out anyway.

No, that's exactly what i meant, i said it right there, i can go places alone. What other meanings did you imagine?


I'm not happy to be alone, i said i'm not currently trying anymore, but this time will pass.


I had old wounds i needed to vent before i could move on. I have moved on.


Oh noes. My load!! ! I can do better i can!! !

The problem is not getting dates, it's keeping the men around once they start to see how "weird" we can be. Either they leave, or you end up getting the kind of guy who DOES stay but is abusive... Finally, after many failed relationships, I have a man who at least tries to accept my quirks and behaviors and so on ( I'll be 40 in only a few short years). we still don't see eye to eye on many things, but then again--- no one does. Honestly, sometimes it's better to be alone then with a series of crappy people.

After reading, or more correctly skimming all 13 pages of this thread guys - and I'll clear the air up here that I'm 25 and I have NEVER been in an relationship or a "meaningful" date with a woman who didn't use me for transportation/alcohol/hotel and that the OP is a bitter Aspie male I'll say this:

GROW THE HELL UP.

I've been noticing this pattern in my head now when I'm spending more and more time on this forum. Sure, I've had my angsty moments and my meltdowns about not having that many friends, not having a relationship, not having sex - all things I would want to do. It's just that Aspie men/boys aren't willing to focus blame on themselves and instead choose to scapegoat women. It's really not that hard to get off the computer and socialize - you just need to find the right place to do it and focus it on a topic. Get off the Xbox, get out of that imaginary world, meet people out there that share that common interest. It's difficult but doable guys. Personally, I don't find the joy in playing video games or being in an imaginary world. I'm happiest being physically active here.

I just feel that Aspie men are prone to bottling up social/personal failure and letting that pressure build up until it ruptures. Now if you'll excuse me guys, I'm debating going to the bar for a drink tonight or not. There's always tomorrow night if I don't go, I just got done replacing an alternator on my car.

Maybe you should stare at a wall. That's basically what you do in Zen meditation. If you practice it consistently, it'll help you become less neurotic.

Thank you for being a man and not a whacked out douche bag.

LOL I don't think it's a bad way to be . I'm currently watching Pure Pwange a mockumentary tv show (cross between The Office and a gross out teen comedy film ) about a virgin gamer guy well in his 20's who I suspect is aspie says:

"Having a girl friend would like totally suck she would eat in to my gaming time unless....


she was a totally hot gamer girl )


Guess what he has a totally hot gamer girl who is a friend right under his nose , who I suspect is romantic towards him )

Totally aspie and unawares !


Has anyone seen the show, do they hook up ?

I am 42 and have the exact same problem as you. Handsome, in good physical shape, intelligent and mindful: yet because of social awkwardness I cannot associate with women. But it is one of the things I regard as a LOW priority on my list of problems. If human females are this shallow (and they are), I have zero problems with being rejected. There are more important things in life to worry about.

Crikey, is this thread still going?

But make no mistake, they are certainly no more shallow than human males.

humans in general are shallow, philosophy-less creatures. It's the small minority that keeps everything going that has a deep philosophy, or in some cases anything at all close to it.

I knew that kind of response was coming, Chronos. Probably deserved. It really is true. I have met countless men who are only interested in their social status and socializing. They dragged me reluctantly off to bars and parties, where I would be miserable. Then they would go out again next night, minus myself, and do it all over again. I don't know why so many people live like that day to day. No plans, no purpose, and an utter lack of reason or logic to existence. I could never live that way. I must be missing something.

No, you're not missing something, they are....but the complexities are too strong for their brains to notice, whereas ours do.

I don't know. And I'm even more perplexed by how many of these people suddenly become concerned about values when they do want to settle down and get married, at which point they usually become massive hypocrites.

This is the man who went clubbing every weekend, had sex with every woman he picked up, and then wants a super hot virgin as a wife.

This is the woman who partied, smoked pot, and drank all the time with band members and then wants a responsible man with a steady job as a husband.

But those are extremes and don't represent the majority of the population. Even most NT's I know don't like the club scene and average people usually accept that their partners might not be the richest, or best looking person in the world.

I am sorry but you are so stupid on that point !

I know basically 3 pretty girls who are still singles and never had a boyfriend, only one has chosen this situation by having a ridiculous conception of love and "the perfect man".

Anyway, I have had some propositions in my life (well, only 4), usually by uninteresting men but was rejected most of the time, I will not say that I am pretty of course, but many people run away from me when they try to know me because they feel that I am so weird, have strange interests and look like I do not understand a thing about social life or do not care.

"Weird", "have a mental problem" is what I have been told many times.

(And yet, I only have a diagnosis of dyspraxia.)


Plus, how can you really have partners when you are totally unable to see whether someone is interested or not (and end up acting as usual, which is the equivalent of a cold shower) ? And what about those who do not even find kissing or touching natural ?


I am pretty sure there are many aspies men who have a family or a partner and many aspie women who are singles. Perhaps males have more troubles because they think they have to correspond to a stereotype (which, from what I've seen, is totally wrong), but female too have to be a stereotype and you cannot generalize.

EDIT : Speak about lack of attention once I'm focusing on something, I did not see the other pages.

I'll be alone forever too. I'm female but I struggle in relationships too. I'm not sure if I'm attractive. I suppose some think I am but I can't communicate properly. I can't share with them or be how they want me to be. Dating is really awkward for me. Even thinking about it makes me feel uneasy.