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Waterfalls-No, I am not sure she is not AS. I have not done enough research on AS in females. I need to look into it more. I don't know what to look for. I did look around a bit, as you suggested. I don't know what information is accurate. One site said to look at apearence and reluctance to move from room to room. No makeup or perfumes, hair is huge afro, (things I love about her) and one time our neighbors came to the door, I went to hide in the bedroom until they went away... she was already in there doing the same thing. I really do not want to talk with her about it. I need to do more research.

I am thinking of moving my story to it's own thread in the hope that someone could possibly avoid some of my mistakes. I have been as honest and open as possible and I hope it is showing lonely young adults out there that just finding somebody else is not going to fix everything. Life is very confusing and no matter how old I get, I always feel like I am just getting started.

Hi! 2 things - One, can aspies lie?
Two, I lost my avatar by accident. I dont know how to create another one. where to find the avatars.
thank you!

Hello all...I have joined this site desperately seeking help. I am NT...I was in a relationship with an Aspie for about a year, last year...and well, things didn't end well as all the communication problems and frustrations took hold. I'm pretty sure he doesn't know he has it, but from everything I have read over the past few days, I have come to realize it seems fairly certain he does (the therapist I am seeing agrees as well - I am seeing the therapist to make myself a better person and understand why and how I contributed to the relationship's demise). And the more I learn, the more horrified I become with everything I did wrong. Anyway...I am still completely broken hearted (he ended it) and despite five months having passed, I still love and miss him with every fiber of my being. We are still in contact...sometimes he gets closer, only to distance himself again. He has admitted to still being attracted to me and missing me, but is unwilling to get back together at this point. Can someone tell me, what hopes do I have of renewing our relationship? I would be willing to do anything. Any advice, however, small would be so greatly appreciated.

Can Aspies lie? Yes. we can, but we do it kind of like children do. We often don't consider all of the facts or believability of our tales, and we're pretty easy to find out if we try to make a habit of it. Plus, we think in more concrete terms, so if we think that it is morally wrong to tell a lie, there is no gray area. The rule is the rule in all cases. If you ask for our "honest opinion," it is likely we will hear your words, void of context, and give you our honest opinion. Why would you ask if you didn't want it? We're notoriously bad at using "tact" and reading non-verbal cues, and that's where the myriad of misunderstanding between Aspies and NTs happens. My advice is please learn to say what you mean primarily using words, and stop trying to read between the lines. With us, there are no lines.

Non-Autistics,

Why do you find pleasure in hurting people who are not as socially sophisticated as you are? Why are you so quick to judge people, spread rumors, and hurt a person's chances at advancing in life? I know you probably all aren't like that, but I've run into too many people who think there's something "wrong" with me just because I don't conform to what they believe is "acceptable." It was worst when I was a child. I was the target of so much bullying and so many cruel jokes. To this day, though, I'm almost afraid to enter into more than a highly scripted professional relationship with new people. I'll find any excuse not to mingle with people "out of context," because of the way I've been treated in the past. "Social life" is a foreign phrase and scary territory for me. I know from experience that one day you can think you've made a friend, and the next day they want nothing to do with you. NTs seem to me to be a somewhat sociopathic lot. They'll keep track of your every flaw and confront you about your shortcomings as if you did it to them on purpose, but they won't acknowledge any of their own faults or cruelties. Yes, I'm generalizing. I've probably met some decent NTs and didn't notice, but I've also met the dregs of society. Unfortunately, I remember the latter.

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Excellent.

how and when did you figure it out what emotions were?

Question for AS:

Do you sometimes experience feelings of jealousy in a relationship?

Howdy! I have a question for Aspies:

My Aspie friend said he has "out of sight out of mind" - if someone isn't right in front of him he isn't thinking of them.
He stopped texting me a couple weeks ago. Does that mean he forgot that I exist? And since I'm not texting him now, could that be a reason he isn't texting me anymore, because my texts aren't right in front of him?