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23 Jan 2013, 8:47 am

answeraspergers wrote:

Ive seen something from you

I'm thinking

"we have powers mwahahahaha"

In the context from which you've lifted it, that was called "a joke".
There is no obligation to laugh.

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I've ZERO faith in the mods here - admittedly based on a small sample of 2

Yes, and especially as you have never actually contacted us about any issues, either - you seem to prefer moaning in public.

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How does a person become one please?

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23 Jan 2013, 8:51 am

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@ nessa – there is a clear distinction between someone making a negative post in a new thread to the negative burning of others threads that occurs here. One fits into the term “support” the other quite clearly does not.

Agreed... I don't think that anyone here minds posts asking for support or help. It's just the countless responses people make that seem to be stuck in a negative mindset.

I'm just bothered by those people who constantly try to bring others down who try to look on the bright side with their "logical" complaints of how we can't change our situation, NTs suck, being positive is stupid, etc.

Each person is going to have different ways of coping with their Aspergers/ASD though - so in my opinion it's good for a person to hear about a variety of coping methods and then be able to choose the one that suits them best

You seem to be saying that relentless positivity is the way to go but in my opinion this does not work for everyone - it certainly doesn't work for me. Black humour and cynicism has kept me alive.

There's an obvious point I could make about the OP on this very matter but I won't because it might offend him.

No, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being negative! But as humans we need three positive thoughts for every negative thought to keep us from being brought down by the negative (it's been proven). I'm talking about balance here!

All I am asking is that if a person is going to be negative, don't try to bring others down with you! By this I mean shooting down people who actually try to post positive things. Just as a courtesy to not try to make everyone be negative like you.

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23 Jan 2013, 8:55 am

nessa238 wrote:

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Also, I'd be interested to see an example of a thread where this bringing others down behaviour is occurring

... I don't have one off the top of my head. Go to any L&D forum for example where men say they can't get chicks no matter what they do. They shoot down any advice that others give them. That kind of thing.

I don't want to post actual threads because it might offend people. Even now I am worried about offending people. I'M NOT SAYING THIS TO OFFEND PEOPLE just to answer nessa's question

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23 Jan 2013, 8:58 am

deltafunction wrote:

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Also, I'd be interested to see an example of a thread where this bringing others down behaviour is occurring

Well can you link to some positive posts you have made then?

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23 Jan 2013, 9:01 am

nessa238 wrote:

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deltafunction wrote:

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Also, I'd be interested to see an example of a thread where this bringing others down behaviour is occurring

Well can you link to some positive posts you have made then?

Go look at my profile if you want to see my previous posts.

Bear in mind that you may have to go like 100 posts back to see something positive. I've been more selective after being shot down a few times and seeing the flaming that goes on.

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23 Jan 2013, 9:03 am

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to be brutally honest.

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honesty is never brutal.
"brutal" is to withhold elements of honesty from those who do not know.

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I could say something honest on this thread and it would be taken as brutal, believe me!

so what? just do it, otherwise you are a social coward,

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23 Jan 2013, 9:06 am

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to be brutally honest.

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honesty is never brutal.
"brutal" is to withhold elements of honesty from those who do not know.

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I could say something honest on this thread and it would be taken as brutal, believe me!

so what? just do it, otherwise you are a social coward,

Ok

The OP mentioned having a friend who committed suicide

So my argument would be how did the OP's insistence on focusing on the positive help their friend?

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23 Jan 2013, 9:07 am

deltafunction wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

deltafunction wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

deltafunction wrote:

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Also, I'd be interested to see an example of a thread where this bringing others down behaviour is occurring

Well can you link to some positive posts you have made then?

Show me a thread where you were shot down then

I'm asking for proof to back up what you are saying

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23 Jan 2013, 9:11 am

@Nessa

Why should they link it?

You can click their profile and view history like anyone can.

We actually had a large disagreement about establishing my email address for the same reason - you refuse to make the basic amount of effort.

I have an example thread. Someone recently posted about their social skill advancement and some dating "success" - it became you are worthless and will get an STD - I als do not wish to post a link to it for like reasons.

@hyperlexian - Thank you for the info. I often dispute you "enough is enough" threshold though, this is not an irrelevance.

@Cornflake - Thank you

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23 Jan 2013, 9:13 am

@B9 - define "social coward,"

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23 Jan 2013, 9:15 am

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deltafunction knows which threads it has occurred on so it will be quicker for them to locate it than me

Also what they might see as being 'shot down' might be seen in a different way by another person - it's all about perception,
hence it would be good if we had an example of what deltafunction is referring to.

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23 Jan 2013, 9:16 am

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This. Why should i do the work for you. Plus I don't exactly want to bring up past feuds.

Why are you so insistent on proof to the point where it might hurt me to bring up these old battles.

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23 Jan 2013, 9:18 am

@ deltafunction - You are cool! I'm happy there are some people like you here and in real life.

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23 Jan 2013, 9:19 am

Thanks!

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23 Jan 2013, 9:22 am

deltafunction wrote:

answeraspergers wrote:

This. Why should i do the work for you. Plus I don't exactly want to bring up past feuds.

Why are you so insistent on proof to the point where it might hurt me to bring up these old battles.

I would have thought you would be keen to illustrate the point you were making with the evidence of an actual thread

It makes no difference to me if you produce a thread or not though - I'm not the one who wants the forum to change

As the moderators have said numerous times, if you feel someone is having a go at you on a thread - report it

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23 Jan 2013, 9:30 am

...Well, I can't find it, but in one thread I was saying that entrepreneurship was the way to go for people who didn't like capitalist greed. Then I was called a "princess" and "stupid" and other insults because obviously, people need capital to start a business and I was stupid enough not to know that :roll: . Then I reported it to a mod who said that it was normal for that forum for people to be called stupid. It became a huge argument, I went of WP for a couple of months, then came back.

These people are the exceptions and not the rule. But here is a thread where I brought up positivity:
https://www.wrongplanet.net/postxf217283-0-15.html
nothing flaming, but a good general opinion that people here have about looking on the bright side

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