03 May 2007, 6:44 pm
If not, I'd say its OK to obsess over people, as long as you don't become a stalker (but I really think thats a different area completely)
Yeah, I've never stalked anyone before.
I just mean like reading their posts all the time and being sad when they're not online. I feel stupid for it though. It just bothers me because I'm 99% sure they wouldn't like me back so it's a waste of time but I still really like them.I dont think it sounds very unusual at all.
I mean,if it doesnt hurt them,or you then dont worry about it.
But if it starts to get to you,then try not to read all the posts.
And oh,about the threads,they're interesting so you should go ahead and post as many as you like.
Thumbs up:-)
Thanks.
03 May 2007, 6:46 pm
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Ahhhhh, go for it, Sopho. And we are all really anxety ridden due to wonder!
I've decided I'm not going to say anything. I think she'd think it was weird.
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04 May 2007, 12:47 am
Sopho and Aspie For The Lord,
Just an observation, but I wonder if this thread is any indication of why you have trouble with relationships in real life. It seems like you're so deep in self doubt that you're missing the poor girl who is frantically waving her hands and saying, "Oohh oohh! Pick me! Pick me! I'd like to get to know you better!" Maybe you've already PM'd Nattie and I'm completely wrong, but it sure seems like she's interested in a relationship, and neither one of you has picked up on it.
Like others have said, you both have great qualities to offer. Your self doubt and self loathing seem to cloud your thinking. I know it's easier said than done, but if you could practice on thinking about the positive things about yourself and expecting others to do the same, you would probably have better luck. It's not something that will happen overnight, but it's a goal you could work towards. I firmly believe that if you walk around feeling negative, you'll only get negative things in return. I'm not saying that we can be positive 100% of the time, but sometimes you have to fake the feelings, then you start to feel them for real.
I hope you don't think I'm crossing the line, but you both seem like nice people who just needed a little guidance.
04 May 2007, 1:31 am
04 May 2007, 1:31 am
04 May 2007, 1:31 am
Just an observation, but I wonder if this thread is any indication of why you have trouble with relationships in real life. It seems like you're so deep in self doubt that you're missing the poor girl who is frantically waving her hands and saying, "Oohh oohh! Pick me! Pick me! I'd like to get to know you better!" Maybe you've already PM'd Nattie and I'm completely wrong, but it sure seems like she's interested in a relationship, and neither one of you has picked up on it.
Like others have said, you both have great qualities to offer. Your self doubt and self loathing seem to cloud your thinking. I know it's easier said than done, but if you could practice on thinking about the positive things about yourself and expecting others to do the same, you would probably have better luck. It's not something that will happen overnight, but it's a goal you could work towards. I firmly believe that if you walk around feeling negative, you'll only get negative things in return. I'm not saying that we can be positive 100% of the time, but sometimes you have to fake the feelings, then you start to feel them for real.
I hope you don't think I'm crossing the line, but you both seem like nice people who just needed a little guidance.
Thanks,
I am working on being more positive.
Things are getting better for AftL now, someone does like him.
