25 Jul 2010, 12:07 am
Seanmw wrote:
I'll be sure to get pics together, if nothing else and will be on the watch for the effects of chemo. in any case, a fresh huge scar over her gut where they cut out the tumor would be rather hard to fake.
cancer's location isn't ever-changing, there was simply one misunderstanding that went on for a bit due to some miscommunication which i'm still quite embarrassed about
. It's definitely in the stomach. Although i guess if it metastasizes it could technically go to different places, yes.
cancer's location isn't ever-changing, there was simply one misunderstanding that went on for a bit due to some miscommunication which i'm still quite embarrassed about
. It's definitely in the stomach. Although i guess if it metastasizes it could technically go to different places, yes.If I am wrong and it turns out she is feeling the full effects of the chemo therapy be vary carefull of what you say to her you do not want to upset her, I believe chemo causes mood swings, my friend Joe when he was going through chemo was the nice guy we all knew and then suddenly he was enraged about something mundane. I know from experience aspies can easily put their feet in their mouths so be carefull.
25 Jul 2010, 12:10 am
Todesking wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
I'll be sure to get pics together, if nothing else and will be on the watch for the effects of chemo. in any case, a fresh huge scar over her gut where they cut out the tumor would be rather hard to fake.
cancer's location isn't ever-changing, there was simply one misunderstanding that went on for a bit due to some miscommunication which i'm still quite embarrassed about . It's definitely in the stomach. Although i guess if it metastasizes it could technically go to different places, yes.
cancer's location isn't ever-changing, there was simply one misunderstanding that went on for a bit due to some miscommunication which i'm still quite embarrassed about
. It's definitely in the stomach. Although i guess if it metastasizes it could technically go to different places, yes.If I am wrong and it turns out she is feeling the full effects of the chemo therapy be vary carefull of what you say to her you do not want to upset her, I believe chemo causes mood swings, my friend Joe when he was going through chemo was the nice guy we all knew and then suddenly he was enraged about something mundane. I know from experience aspies can easily put their feet in their mouths so be carefull.
will definitely be careful with my words in any case
25 Jul 2010, 12:33 am
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25 Jul 2010, 12:52 am
Todesking wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
MathGirl wrote:
While I try to not make my own conclusions about something that is uncertain, I am very curious indeed about how this is going to turn out. Going so far to meet her is a huge leap to take, and a risky one. I truly wish you luck.
thanks, & i'll let y'all know when i find out either way.just be carefull that she might be someone who likes to create drama just to get people worked up. You might arrive at the airport with no one to pick you up or a fake address to search for. You might want to set up a back up plan in case every thing goes wrong. Find some sights to see or places to eat so you will not have the trip end up as a total lost.
. Then that would be one member to cross off on my list of WP members i want to meet. Also i tend to make back-up plans for such things anyways. I like to be prepared...
25 Jul 2010, 12:55 am
25 Jul 2010, 1:13 am
ouinon wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
Next time she's not sleeping and answers my phone call ... ... ... I've just been telling what i do know, which since communication's been shaky, ... isn't all that much. ... ... ... i just haven't had as much time to talk to her lately because she's had alot of family visiting to see her & stuff apparently. As i said though earlier, she said she might have some time to talk on the phone a lil later tonight ...
It sounds to me as if your/our questions have got her on the run.
She's "clever", because an unusual amount of sleep and "family visiting her" is so very possible, *if* she were gravely ill.
Except that there is no way that she or her mother could have a clear and definite enough diagnosis at this stage ( just 14 days after she supposedly first visited a doctor complaining of a headache, which has since gone away ) to warrant farewell visits from relatives.
PS.
seanmw wrote:
I've not even known what details to be asking her about.
You wouldn't have had to know, *if* her story were true. She would have told you all about the visit for a blood tests, etc; the consultation with the specialist; the visit for the MRI, what that was like; the follow-up visit for discussion about MRI results; the medication to control growth of the tumour, etc ... *if* her story was true. That would have been "her news" each day. At least it probably would be mine; if I had the threat of cancer hovering over me I'd be somewhat interested in, and needing to talk about, the various results etc.
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? could've just been concerned visits. Wouldn't put imminent death on the table quite yet, until further data is gathered.
Also, such things aren't exactly comfortable casual conversation topics, in fact during most of that week or so, i'd rather tried to avoid them as to not upset her. & i'd imagine someone with a potentially deadly disease wouldn't naturally be enthusiastic to gush on about it at every possible opportunity
. So i don't really see it as too strange that that she wasn't talking about it to me daily.
and just out of casual curiousity, do you have a history of paranoia? Or just a fervent love of debate?
25 Jul 2010, 1:15 am
25 Jul 2010, 1:22 am
25 Jul 2010, 1:28 am
25 Jul 2010, 1:30 am
ouinon wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
... do you have a history of paranoia? Or just a fervent love of debate?
A continuing ( chronic and often exhausting ) obsession with truth.
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I do not know why I am so concerend with this. I do not know Sean but I do not want to see him screwed over I guess. I still think he too trusting. At least he gets to meet Ferdinand as a back up plan.
25 Jul 2010, 1:31 am
Seanmw wrote:
I think the cancer is true, you think it's "bigfoot"
:lol I do at the moment anyway, whereas I did start to wonder if it might be real, ( just after you discovered that she supposedly had stomach cancer instead of a brain tumour ), because it seemed to me that the incoherence and generally unconvincing nature of the story might simply be confused reporting ... but I've swung back to believing that it is in fact "bigfoot"! Sorry.
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25 Jul 2010, 1:35 am
ouinon wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
I think the cancer is true, you think it's "bigfoot"
:lol I do at the moment anyway, whereas I did start to wonder if it might be real, ( just after you discovered that she supposedly had stomach cancer instead of a brain tumour ), because it seemed to me that the incoherence and generally unconvincing nature of the story might simply be confused reporting ... but I've swung back to believing that it is in fact "bigfoot"! Sorry.
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. Because i do tend to do that alot actually 
. One of the things that's embarrassing about being an aspie sometimes; the occasional misunderstandings.
25 Jul 2010, 1:41 am
Todesking wrote:
ouinon wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
... do you have a history of paranoia? Or just a fervent love of debate?
A continuing ( chronic and often exhausting ) obsession with truth.
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I do not know why I am so concerend with this. I do not know Sean but I do not want to see him screwed over I guess. I still think he too trusting. At least he gets to meet Ferdinand as a back up plan.
25 Jul 2010, 2:00 am
seanmw wrote:
ouinon wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
I think the cancer is true, you think it's "bigfoot"
:lol I do at the moment anyway, whereas I did start to wonder if it might be real, ( just after you discovered that she supposedly had stomach cancer instead of a brain tumour ), because it seemed to me that the incoherence and generally unconvincing nature of the story might simply be confused reporting ... but I've swung back to believing that it is in fact "bigfoot"! Sorry. The trouble is that even if you did manage to collect the $500+ for a plane ticket and went to her house you might find her "not at home" ( not answering the door that is ) and she would tell you, by phone, that she was very sorry but that she had suddenly had to be transported to a hospital or specialist out of town for the time you are there, and so even a visit might not be conclusive. And however nice it would be to see Ferdinand you would still not have any conclusive evidence about her story, ( despite spending the $500 ).
Edit. PS. If her story was true, it is quite likely that she *would* appreciate spilling/sharing what is going on for her, the medical procedures, etc, and if you don't, out of "sensitivity" for her, she will think that the subject bores or depresses you and be afraid to do so.
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