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04 May 2007, 4:12 am
SeriousGirl wrote:
I'm not sure if I was of line there.
04 May 2007, 4:18 am
kiki3 wrote:
Sopho and Aspie For The Lord,
Just an observation, but I wonder if this thread is any indication of why you have trouble with relationships in real life. It seems like you're so deep in self doubt that you're missing the poor girl who is frantically waving her hands and saying, "Oohh oohh! Pick me! Pick me! I'd like to get to know you better!" Maybe you've already PM'd Nattie and I'm completely wrong, but it sure seems like she's interested in a relationship, and neither one of you has picked up on it.
Like others have said, you both have great qualities to offer. Your self doubt and self loathing seem to cloud your thinking. I know it's easier said than done, but if you could practice on thinking about the positive things about yourself and expecting others to do the same, you would probably have better luck. It's not something that will happen overnight, but it's a goal you could work towards. I firmly believe that if you walk around feeling negative, you'll only get negative things in return. I'm not saying that we can be positive 100% of the time, but sometimes you have to fake the feelings, then you start to feel them for real.
I hope you don't think I'm crossing the line, but you both seem like nice people who just needed a little guidance.
Just an observation, but I wonder if this thread is any indication of why you have trouble with relationships in real life. It seems like you're so deep in self doubt that you're missing the poor girl who is frantically waving her hands and saying, "Oohh oohh! Pick me! Pick me! I'd like to get to know you better!" Maybe you've already PM'd Nattie and I'm completely wrong, but it sure seems like she's interested in a relationship, and neither one of you has picked up on it.
Like others have said, you both have great qualities to offer. Your self doubt and self loathing seem to cloud your thinking. I know it's easier said than done, but if you could practice on thinking about the positive things about yourself and expecting others to do the same, you would probably have better luck. It's not something that will happen overnight, but it's a goal you could work towards. I firmly believe that if you walk around feeling negative, you'll only get negative things in return. I'm not saying that we can be positive 100% of the time, but sometimes you have to fake the feelings, then you start to feel them for real.
I hope you don't think I'm crossing the line, but you both seem like nice people who just needed a little guidance.
I can relate a lot to that self doubt. Fear of rejection, closeness, intimacy are hard things to brake. Sometimes they could be literally waving flags and you still won't do anything. It might not be anything to do with self loathing either, some people have a very high self image but are crippled with fear on the outside.
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04 May 2007, 6:19 am
I got obsesssed with my last g/f, she broke up with me about 6 months ago, and I still cant move on. 
04 May 2007, 6:33 am
i would still like to know who it is Sopho...
you can PM me, i can keep a secret...
just like i kept......ahh...
im not telling 
see how good at keeping secrets i am? 
04 May 2007, 6:40 am
Danielismyname wrote:
Sopho wrote:
I'm trying to do what's best for everyone.
This is where you’ll constantly fail. Controlling your environment so that’s it’s comfortable for you; comfortable for everyone else is an impossible aim. You cannot control your emotion; you can run from it, fight it or…accept it. This is no different to the physical world. The more control you wish to have over your life will increase the amount of pain you feel. By not revealing your emotion…hiding it behind a wall of self-induced pain…you’ll never feel any better – look into your past for evidence.
Emotion shared between individuals is emotion finally accepted....
But sometimes revealing things just makes things worse for everyone else. I thought the most logical thing to do would be to assess which option would cause the least problems for the most amount of people. Maybe I got it wrong. But it's done now. I have already said that I do regret starting this thread and I apologise to anyone who's either p*ssed off about it or worried it's them lol
But there isn't really much I can do about it now. Even if I could delete the whole thread, that wouldn't make much different as, judging by the amount of views it's got, most people have probably seen the main bit of it anyway.
I'm sorry again to anyone for any inconvenience I might have caused, and I'm sure I have.
04 May 2007, 6:41 am
Smelena wrote:
Sopho wrote:
I don't think they'd want to be my friend though. I'm boring and there aren't really any good things about me which would make someone want to be my friend.
I'm too much of a coward to say anything as well. It would just make me more depressed to get confirmation that they don't like me back.
I'm too much of a coward to say anything as well. It would just make me more depressed to get confirmation that they don't like me back.
Oooh. I hope it's me! I love reading your posts.
Smelena
Thanks
And AftL, I'm not going to tell you who it is.
lol It's probably best that we all just try and forget about this now. What a mess.
04 May 2007, 6:56 am
but i cant drop it...
i hoard secrets, i know more secrets than anyone, and i dont like them losing their value by other people knowing them...
...it also give me a sense of pleasure knowing other people dont know what i know 
04 May 2007, 8:01 am
I'm saying nothing. 
