Cruel(lest) ways you've been rejected?

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Two that come to mind

#1 was not invited to my girlfriend's birthday party because my mom and her mom were concerned we'd have sex too early (what a laugh!) and lied to both of us that the other didn't love us anymore - damn near ruined my adolescence.

#2: in college I had a crush on this girl who would not go out with me. I had a (supposed) friend who sometimes would go to my apartment as he was living with his granny and needed some personal space. One day a class I was in got canceled so I came home early to find the girl and my friend (?) in MY bed screwing.

EDIT: almost forgot the icing on the cake. The friend and I made up (he must have felt guilty) and offered to set me up on a blind date at this party. She was really hot (I'm thinking I'm just about to get real lucky) and then out of the blue he whispers to me "she doesn't' like you - we have to go - you've ruined the vibes here".

That says it all - this stuff still haunts me to this day.

Oh, the tales I could tell...

Here are a few.

In high school the first girl I ever asked out laughed in my face...loud...with other people around.

I called a friend I hadn't heard from in a few weeks to wish her a happy birthday because she said she got bummed when people forgot her birthday. What did I hear? "We're sorry. The number you have dialed is no longer in service." So I sent an e-mail to her asking her about the phone (and wishing her a happy birthday). As it turned out, she had moved out of state and didn't bother to tell me. FYI, this has actually happened on other occasions where I called someone only to find out they moved without telling me.

I had some co-workers that had invited me to go out with them to clubs, movies, etc. Not necessarily my thing, but it was the closest thing to a social life I'd had in a while, so I usually went. But then I guess they decided I wasn't fun enough. I'd hear them getting together and making arrangements to go out after work without asking me if I was interested. Note: I was in the same room...a few feet away.

Same group involved in this one. I'm at work on a Monday. A co-worker, also part of this group, walked by and asked me, "Hey, where were you on Saturday? It was a great party!" Me: "What party?" Him: "Didn't you get the e-vite?" Me: "What e-vite?" Him: "Oh. Sorry." Me:

That's probably enough for now...I could go on and on.

FYI, except for the high school incident, these all happened in the last 10 years.

As far as rejections go...I haven't had very severe ones. I've had some friends that sort of forget about me but never really flatout said we're through.

I've had some acquaintances who barely tolerated me and I knew it. There was a kid in my neighborhood that I used to play with but for some unknown reason he turned on me, and turned all his friends against me along with.

In grade 6, one classmate took it upon emselves to kinda "vote me out".She basically said....whoever doesn't like Tory please stand up...a fair bit of people stood up.

In grade 9, basically a bunch of bullies were yelling...shut up ...nobody cares what you say...this was in social studies...one of my interests and specialized subjects....the teacher basically let them do that and wouldnt even tell them to let me speak.

also in grade 9, not being picked for a group project for dance in PE...that same social teacher taught us PE.I told him I needed a group and he basically said it wasnt his problem and if I didnt do anything, Id lose ten percent.....THANK GOD CANADA DOESNT HAVE TRUANCY LAWS>>>I skipped school for the rest of that week and didnt lose those marks....ONE RARE CASE WHERE SKIPPING SCHOOL AND BEING A TRUANT EARNED ME MARKS.

In the rest of high school it was basically the same thing..humiliation, being picked last..people who i thought were friends spread false rumours about me and I was never in the loop in regards to any parties and such and when I invited em to do stuff, theyd make up excuses.

Upon moving to Red Deer, I had an online friend but after a while...he had a high school aged friend of his from the crappy place he works at besides his graphics job send me abusive emails saying he never liked me and that I was a creep.

Facebook is another one....People from HS who I thought were my friends completely ignore me and when I try to talk to them, they log off.Nobody ever wrties on my wall.Id delete my fb but I have family there and some people I know such as in Winnipeg do communicate with me regularily.

My own biological mother was more in a hurry to see her friends in saskatchewan instead of seeing me for the first time in over 20 years....On her way to SK, she would have only been 45 mins from Red Deer...I even offered to pay the gas for her to make that little detour but her response was...I dont have much time...I am going to SK to see my old friends who I havent seen in a year..she cant even spare half a day out of 20 years....Aint nothing like being rejected by one's own mother.

I'm not sure if any of this is related to rejection, but I guess it is..kinda..

I remember in elementary school other kids would treat me as if I had a disease. We had to sit in groups of three in this one class, and my folder was touching this one girl's desk. She shoved it away and went "ewww!"

Another time, a couple grades later, I walked into class late wearing a red button-down shirt, black shorts, and black suspenders (I had no concept of what was cool, and my grandmother dressed me most of the time). Well, everyone can see outside from the classroom, so they saw me walking up. Once I went inside everyone laughed at me.

I always played with this ret*d kid (and I say that clinically) cos nobody else would, so I got a lot of crap for that.

I've also been called "fag" throughout school. I guess because I never participated in sports, or displayed any typical boyish behavior.

Oh, what a wonderful childhood.

i drove 2 miles to get to my local pastry shop and i wanted a meat pie.
i got there at 5:03pm unfortunately ( i wish i had a bulldozer blade on the front of my car to get through the traffic) and she shut the door in my face.

that was a savage example of rejection i experienced recently. the pies that were still in the heating rack inside the closing shop were so inviting and i wanted one. i felt not favorable in my attitude to her refusal to open the door and get me my pie.

i was rejected with respect to being served to my satisfaction.

i was blisteringly annoyed when i had to walk further up the street and get a pie from the other bakery up there that was still was open.
they also sell excellent pies but i was none the less annoyed for about 50 minutes.

what a b***h for closing the door on me!! ! i was going to spend $1:20 on a pie that would have cost her pastry chef 30c to prepare and she shut the door in my face.
well she will forever remain unadorned with my $1:20 that i would have paid her for a pie that afternoon.

i hope she is $1.20 short of avoiding bankruptcy one day.

the other pie i got was actually a very nice pie so i changed my routine and used that shop to buy my pies at.

serious stuff really.

LOL B9

My stories echo many of the ones that I've read here.

Things like, spending a ton of time trying to build a relationship with someone only to find out that they aren't romantically interested in me and that they didn't want to "lead me on any longer."

Making dinner a few times for someone that I was interested before the next semester started only to have her completely ignore me after the semester started.

Most of my "friends" are friends of convenience. I.E they will NEVER call me. The only times that they will hang out is when I call them, or when I say something like "Hey, I'll pay."

Two years ago I went a month without anyone saying a word to me (Beyond my teachers of course). I would sit in the main lobby of the music school and do my absolute best to be social (eye contact, smiling etc) and I was completely ignored. This happened because my only real friend was on sabbatical for a year.

I go down the hallway of the school and can watch people look at me, notice that I'm trying to connect, and then they will look at the floor/ceiling, their watches, etc, and then walk right past me. Every day.

I do think the worst feeling for me is the friends of convenience thing and the being led on thing.

It sucks to be invisible when sometimes you really want to try and be social. It sometimes feels like I'm stuck in quicksand. Actually, it always feels that way. Ugh

Oh hey, forgot one.

I had a girlfriend that lived about an hour away from me. Her sister, parents, best friend and I planned a surprise party for her 20th birthday.

She was surprised and ran around and hugged everyone that was there, when she got to me she said "Oh...hi" and then proceeded to ignore me for the rest of the night. Yeah, I left early and broke up with her soon after that. But still. In front of her parents, friends, and sister, and they all noticed.

Good times