The autism social rule book.

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If someone asks if you like their haircut, say yes, even if you don't like it.

If your like me and your really bad at following movie plots. While watching a movie dont ask constantly about whats going on in the plot. It might be annoying for them and it destracts them from the movie. Hold your questions till afterwards or if you guys decide to pause in the middle.

I feel like most aspies wouldnt have this problem

If your an aspie who likes to blab about their problems, dont tell just anyone. Make sure you can really trust the person if you care about how your percieved with the person. For one you dont wanna annoy the person and two you dont want the person to view as a pity friend. Honestly Im not the only person thats done this before. Ive gotten a few socially awkward guys to open up to me about their social difficulties here and there when I didnt know them well. It was cool with me cause I could actually relate to that.

Its better not to make jokes which question a guys ability to reproduce unless you know the guy well and know he wouldnt mind and he knows your joking.

Try to act your age. If you don't, you might feel embarrassed about it someday.

I encountered something recently which you guys may find useful. I certainly found it useful.
It requires knowing which questions may be awkward first of all.
If you believe that a question you are asking may be awkward but you are not sure, try to ask the question in a way that leaves the person a way out. What I mean is that the person can choose to answer the question or not, but the way they don't answer the question will be a way which continues the conversation and will not be awkward.

Maybe not the best example but this the scenario which just happened 5mins ago which led me to writ this.

My friend: shmehhh, everyone's ignoring mee.
Me: (I am thinking I want to know why everyone is ignoring her, did she do something bad? is she just wanting attentions? I have a lot of question)
Me: "Why would they do that? That sucks..." (I say "that sucks" because she can choose to respond to that instead of responding to the question.)

I then go on to say two scenarios which would logically explain why nobody is talking to her. Positive examples for her to not hurt her feelings but they are logical because I am logical. Then I go on to say that I still like her. Because I have learned that people like to hear this.

Surprise... she says I made her feel better.

Perhaps this advice will help some of you if you read it, perhaps some of you are past this point. Perhaps some of you have no clue what I am saying or think I am crazy. I did enjoy typing this though. heheheheh. I can't wait for a reply.

That's a good one actually! I liked it and definitely gona use it.

Okay my turn:

Always say hello or goodbye or just greet your neighbours/friends with something, don't just pass by and say nothing. This is key to start a conversation actually... try it on people you like

-- If you're unsure of what to do with your hands while talking, holding a water bottle or something similar helps!

-- I often get highly amused by my thoughts and, even though people ask, it's usually best for not to tell them "what's so funny?" Although the reaction is priceless... lol. If i work around someone for an extended period of time, I warn them about my "you don't want to know grin"

-- i know some of these (like cleaning ears) has been mentioned. I would state almost any kind of personal grooming should be avoided (sans fixing hair or filing nails). To include nail clipping, messing with pimples, picking teeth, etc.

-- the talking to yourself thing has been mentioned many times. a good excuse is to say you are practicing some form of performance art, such as a memorizing lines to a play or comedy routine.

If someone asks you a question, reply in the calmest voice possible, even if the question made you anxious.

If some one asks what you think is a stupid question, don't instantly treat them as if they were stupid.