WP members GF ill with cancer

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People, stop trying to warn/protect Sean from harm.

Let him do what he's planning to do, let him learn from his own mistakes. That would be less headache for you and a much better boost for Sean's maturity.

Sean post some more pictures of Adrienne in this thread!

Sean, is your girlfriend aware that you're going to show off to a whole bunch of people from internet the pictures that she sent to you? Is she alright with that? Did you ask her?

Usually mums know not to go near their kids cellphones or they'll hit the roof. Especially if you have phone sex on them.

I think the girl in the pictures is the same person, and probably the girl hes talking to, but he shouldn't rush into things without the proper info especially when money is involved. Im not trying to be skeptical, just sensible.

I think at this point Seanmw would have to be digging his head really far into the sand to not have heard the warning. I think we can assume he knows the risk, and wants to take it. Maybe what we should do is help suggest ways to hedge his bets, so that he isn't trapped if it does turn out he's been lied to.

1) Buy a round trip ticket. Paid for, no additional funds needed. As in, going home is insured. Tickets are electronic in today's world so as long as he doesn't share pass words or anything else he's going home when he's supposed to.

2) Don't give her money. You are there to see her because you care, but she can't realistically expect you to offer to fund her expenses. She will NOT be denied necessary medical care because of lack of funds. Remember that, no matter how many sob stories you hear. No one in their right mind turns to someone of limited funds and experience to figure out how to pay medical bills. Let her vent, give her sympathy, help her research, and help brainstorm; but if she's pushing on you for the money, it doesn't add up. Similar on living expenses; this is her mother's responsibility, not yours.

3) Carry a prepaid calling card or similar so that, again, you can always make contact and can always go home.

4) Don't drive down any dark allies or meet strangers in odd places.

Seanmw, I do want you to know that even smart, socially skilled, and alert people have fallen for scams or plain old scumbags in the name of love. A woman I worked with for years married and moved away with the man of her dreams, only to find police at her door 2 years later. I had a few dates with a guy that looks one helluva lot like a con man I've since seen on a poster in the post office (no joke, they sometimes still do that, lol). It can, literally, happen to anyone. If it does, you pick yourself up and move on, hopefully with as little damage as possible. If someone loves YOU, they won't ASK you to make unrealistic self-sacrifices; they just won't. And things will always feel equal, and not like you are being forced to prove your love. Just something to remember as you venture down this road.

For those who want to help him out, it should be from your excess and not your need, so that you won't feel upset if everything ends up going downhill.