Does anybody else detest parties ?????????

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I hate parties and never go, never have one. I never even had a wedding when I married.

Yes of course. Me and parties don't mix. I always end up eating a lot and hide somewhere to read. My mom forces to wear make-up on me (which to me is like acid) and be girly (which I hate doing).

Besides, most the people at the parties I go to don't even know I exist. What's the point of dragging me when they get me confused with my little sister (who is ten years younger than I am).

For me it depends on the type of party.

A small intimate occasion with good food and good friends? Totally.

A huge affair with many people I either don't know or don't care about? Nah.

Although I get to go to the latter with my partner, since he's got certain "do's" he's got to attend for his work. Sometimes those parties can be nice if I find some other guests I can get into a good conversation with. But all the faux-politeness tends to rankle me by the end of the evening. Especially from many of the wives of the attendees...

I dislike parties due to the combination of almost all the things I do not like:
1. Loud music
2. Loud conversations
3. Drunk people
4. Lots of people being near me
5. Lots of conversations happening at once
6. Dancing (everything about it)
7. They rarely fit into my sleeping patterns and other personal habits
8. Meeting new people face to face
9. Shared pots of snacks, crisps and nuts etc.
Overall not much going for them but fortunately I get invited to very few of these germ spreading affairs.

Parties aren't really my kinda thing

Haven't been to any for a couple years though, except kids ones (family, I don't mean random children)

Me too...

But I would rather go to my own auto da fe than a party where I had to "make conversation".

Yes and no. I like the idea of them and look forward to the few that I go to but when I actually get there I tend to look forward to leaving.
Friday afternoon I went to a retirement party for two guys from work. I grabbed a beer, congratulated each of the new retirees, spoke in passing with a few others, finished that one beer, and then left.
Sometimes if I can get into sustainable conversation with a few people I'll stick around longer and actually enjoy it.

The one Friday had a live band and that created a ton of noise. Bands are fine sometimes but I can't stand to have to try and have conversation with that much noise. I can only deal with one or the other.

Parties are always a social workout and a half.

I only like small, nice parties with gentle, friendly, laid-back people. Favourite kind is where there's a bit of good unplugged live music with me as one of the musicians, and a few games as long as there isn't this "everybody's got to join in" ethos. I want to know I can go home whenever I want, without any pressure to stay - can't abide this "oh, you can't go yet" rubbish. And I want vegan food (happy to bring it myself), and no smell of meat, tobacco smoke or air fresheners. The smell of reefer is acceptable. And I want somewhere comfy to sit down. I will not stand up trying to juggle a drink in one hand and a paper plate of food in the other. And reasonable access to a toilet. And there'd best still be a chair for me when I get back from using it. And I want neither ignoring nor overloading with attention. Sounds like a tall order but I've known it to happen.

If it's big, cramped, drunken, loud, chavish, socially competitive, pompous, clique-ish, chaotic, sexualised, or dress-codey, then they can shove it. And if it happens in my neighbourhood and I can hear it from my bedroom, I'll most likely report them to the authorities for breaking the noise pollution bye-laws

Actually, if it's just big then technically it could get my seal of approval as long as none of those other negative criteria are met - though I've yet to hear of such a party.

Parties? I hate it when there are more than six or so people in a room.

What is a "party"?

It usually means that dozens of people meet in one place and drink or take social drugs,

Then they try to pick each other up for casual sexual encounters.

I detest loud and crowded parties and can become physically ill from the overstimulation. I can enjoy quieter gatherings and dancing. Even then, I often tire of the adults and end up playing with the children. I have a young child who gives me a convenient excuse to leave whenever I want. It's a good thing that I love playing with him.

Oh well - that's ONE flamin' party overe with !

It was a typical Italian 50th party - plenty of people , music , noisy active children and loud music ( the same ols songs that they have been playing year after year after ... .

We found a quiet, darkish corner for me - where I could see EVERYTHING but wasn't noticed much myself .

I was worried for the days leading up to it and ALL of THE day - but it is done now!

I ended up speaking to a few strangers , older types who had stories to tell - only thing was the music was so loud nobody could really hear much ! !

My next nightmare is a 21st in two weeks time .

Grrrrrrrrrrrr ! !!1

yeah i get ignored anyway so whats the point.
idk some scare me like drugs and drinking i dont want to get involved and since i dont do that stuff i dont want something bad to happen to me i kinda dont wanna say it on here.

Yeah unfortunately you're completely right, if parties were more civilised and not based on breaking the law and banging each other I would possibly make the effort to go to a lot more.

Depends on the people......I think it's a matter of sussing out the host - if the host is relatively responsible and mature of mind, the party is likely to refliect those qualities. It's a shame that so many aren't - I think the Gov should introduce a classification system for parties, and make them stick the appropriate warning symbols on the door and on invitations - "O" for orgy, "N" for narcotics, "A" for alcoholic nightmare, "LM" for loud music, etc. The really awful parties could simply have a " " sticker.


Ah yes, I remember the days when I used to be able to do that.... And the presence of children nearly always forces a refreshing demurity on the whole venture If not, revenge can be had by simply alerting the authorities to the attempted corruption of minors. Revenge and rescuing kids in one simple move Not that I've ever had to, I'm relieved to say.

Maybe you guys can suggest a few tips as to how YOU manage to cope with parties or gatherings ! !

Home based parties seem a little easier as there are rooms to "hide" - -ie Get there early and "help out" in the kitchen .

The ones where they "book" a club are harder for me -only one big room usually with a DANCEFLOOR ! !!

beleughh parties, a boiling hot room stuffed with 10 NT's evere square meter with music so loud its above the pain threshhold.