Do ALL Aspies or Auties dislike bieing hugged or touched?

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I'm OK with touches if it's with a good friend except if I accidently brush against someone, I hate that. But I don't like hugs if I'm not initiating it, I will hug someone back if they invite though it just feels uncomfortable, even when my mum hugs me and I tend not to let her. Well sometimes it's not the hug itself that bothers me it's just when someone is about to hug me, like they're walking extremely close to me and my heart beats really fast. but once they're hugging me I generally aren't that bothered. And it does depend on who it is, and I often fantasize about my best boy mate with his arms around me tight lol but he'd never do that (he's a touch averse aspie, just my luck hehe).

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Would prefer not to, except from my kids. Will tolerate little kids and maybe old ladies--nothing too tight. I deplore hand squeezing, though--this is why I hate the handshake thing.

Like all traits it seems to vary a lot, but not liking being touched is pretty common...

I HATE being touched except by people I'm really close to and it seems that both my parents are like that too!

Sam

I like being hugged and touched by someone I now well, but I get panicky if a relative does it.

I have no touch or hug problems whatsoever.

I hate light touch and prefer harder pressure. Harder pressure is calming. AS BF loves extremely light touch, like my taking my nails and barely touching his skin. Strange, that is!

I like it when it is expected. When it's unexpected, I don't like it. (Eg. in a crowd.)

I really do not like being touched and hugged,by strangers. I will only tolerate if it's a close relative, friend or parents.

When I met other people I tend to back off and keep a distance from them. I only can stand a quick handshake.

Like a lot of people here, I'm OK with touching and hugging from people I'm close to. Unsolicited touch - uh-uh. Enforced stuff like the odious practice of the 'group hug', especially in inappropriate places like work - forget it.

I grew up in one of those old-fashioned homes where you didn't hug kids or touch them unless you were grooming them, and that kind of touch usually hurt. (It took me a long time to get comfortable with hairdressers, too.) I got so used to not being touched affectionately by my mother that when she suddenly started getting touchy-feely in her old age, it made my skin crawl. It didn't feel genuine.

I hate being touched, but i like hugs.

My parents tell me that when I was very young, I was tactile defensive, and that they put me through occupational therapy to get rid of it. It still persisted to some minor extent into my teen years, showing itself primarily in very fast reflexes. I'm pretty much normal in that regard now. I don't mind incidental bumping, handshakes, etc. The one thing I don't like is if someone claps me on the back. When that happens I pretty much go rigid for a few seconds then slowly exhale. It's all I can do to keep reacting in a way that will probably freak someone out. Sometimes I'll also say, "Please don't do that. . .".

With me, it depends on who is doing the hugging and touching. Even when I'm upset, I don't really like strangers hugging me or touching my arm. A good looking guy is okay though