Being Constantly Unsure Of Yourself?

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Not ASD.

I think it's mostly an anxiety or a self-esteem thing, where someone feels on some level that they're not capable, that an error reflects a fundamental flaw in who they are, etc.

Lately, I can't help but notice how many quantifiers I use in both my speech and my writing. My therapist asked me to name three positive qualities about myself and I described myself as "fairly intelligent", "not that bad looking" and "kind of compassionate". It comes from not trying to sound cocky and wanting people to like me. I also agree with some other posters about not being certain about everything, since I don't feel comfortable claiming something as fact when I'm not sure.

In my case, I've had people in the past tell me I came across as arrogant, so I've made a conscious effort to temper that. I think the result has been that now I sound *too* unsure of myself.

My Boss wrote in a negative performance evaluation that I was unsure of myself and then he fired me.

Sounds like the way I tend to describe myself, too.



Yes.

To add to this: on several occasions, I have been proven to be RIGHT, and yet I still do this.

Yep, I'm exactly like the OP. And, when once in a while I'm sure enough of the facts to actually state it as fact, people usually look at me like I'm an idiot for some reason, even if I'm right. Wish i knew why, the way i say it maybe? No idea....

Yes I'm very like unsure of myself and overly apologetic. Occasionally if I am really sure something is right I will say it, but the only time I seem to say something with surety, it's the wrong time, i.e. it turns out they're telling a joke and I correct them not realising it's a joke...

I'd also agree with this as well:

I am very perfectionistic and feel like I have to do and say things right 100% all the time so if I feel there's the slightest chance that I may be wrong, I hedge my bets and apologise and say things like "I think...." even if I'm 99% sure I'm right. Of course being an Aspie, chances are I am going to get things wrong (in my defence I only found out I was an Aspie recently and this has been going on for years). Somehow I feel the key to improving my self-confidence is to not care about getting things wrong.

Always. If it's not something black and white in front of me, I always end up second guessing myself. I think I do myself more harm then good in the process.

I'm very unsure of myself in certain ways, like whether or not I've heard something correctly or remember it correctly. Not sure if I really saw something I think I saw or not. Unsure of what day it is or sometimes what time of the year it is. Things like that.