Apparently I'm intimidating?

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When I was growing up, I didn't really get the body languate/facial expression thing. I only just started making eye contact with people (I like to see what expressions they're making anyways). I was called intimidating a lot, which was funny because I was even tinier than I am now. One kid commented in high school that it looked like I was about to shoot someone.

I'm still learning the faces-thing, but it's more like acting for me (oh, it's so funny to make the wrong face at certain times). It's fun to amuse.

Before I knew about my Asperger's I had no idea why people were so odd around me. I mean everyone, teachers, students, doctors, you name it felt somewhat insecure around me. When talking to some of my friends they finally told me that I was intimidating. Apparently people think that I think I'm better than them so they don't like to talk to me. I enjoy having "intelligent" conversations with people but most people don't care about these types of conversations. And they assume that if you try to have these kinds of conversations you're talking down to them or something? Right now I'm trying to get a girl and everyone thinks that she is intimidating but I just think she's hot!! ! But I think she's intimidated by me, she has a hard time looking me in the eye and doesn't text me back. She's black and I talk very properly and speak out in class a lot so she's always trying to prove how not ghetto she is to me when I don't even care about that kind of stuff lol. But I know she likes me. Part of me wants her to be an Aspie lol but idk. Oh and I'm black as well so I doubly intimidate people lol...who knows maybe blacks have a higher incidence of Asperger's and that's why people are always afraid? lol jk. Finally, my dad has it too and all of my friends have always been intimidated by him.

I think people may think i am intimidating if that makes sense, because i tend to stare at people.. for too long.

Not anymore as I suffer terrible social anxiety and appear nervous but when I was younger in my teens and twenties I could apperently be very intimidating sometimes. I would stand to close to people , stare , talk over them, keep repeating my opinions , supposedly antagonize people and sometimes my body language was described as "squaring up for a fight" I've even been accused of bullying! (I hate bully's Ive been a victim myself) when all I thought I was doing was being confident and friendly . How could I've got things so wrong??? Socializing is a mystery to me so I give up at the age of 30

I don't look intimidating. I just look simple and dopey, and I can tell in other people's faces that they're thinking ''ha ha, look at that stupid girl!''

I've noticed little kids stare up at me like I'm some ogre.....but it's always been little girls, and I know that females have that trait in them where they stare, so I reckon they're born with that trait.

I often get the feeling that guys are sizing me up, as if getting ready to fight. Perhaps I have an agressive "look" about me, and they are just preparing to defend themselves? I mean, I'm only 5'7", and never been in a serious physical altercation. Ever. Been slapped, grabbed, attempted pushing (apparently I have a low center of gravity), had knives and guns drawn on me. But no physical fights. They always appear (to me, at least) to be REALLY unsure of their abilities against me. Even the people holding knives and guns. Umm. My attitude is, "Can't we all just get along?" Maybe I need to smile more? But then that seems to make some guys think that I'm weak, and easy prey. Once branded that, it's hard to convince them otherwise (until they piss me off). I dunno. Just leave me the frick alone, and I'll give you the same courtesy.

I had a similar problem in high school. I was in football, and lifted weights all year long, every year. My junior and senior years I had more problems with this. Never got suspended for it, though, but I had a fairly easy time in high school because people rarely started up stuff with me. Another problem is that when I do make eye contact, I treat it like a staring contest. Doesn't quite help.

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