List one NT thing you do not understand.

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How can they be so at ease among others, As I can only be with close friends?

"I know something you don't know. I...am not left-handed."

Sorry, I just finished watching "The Princess Bride," and this quote came to mind.

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I don't understand why when I say something they believe that I meant something else and why when they want to convey information they don't say it directly and instead say something else and get annoyed when I don't interpret what they said as what they actually wanted to convey.

I think I've figured this out (and it only took me 25 years...). Part of it is a way for people to size each other up and make sure they aren't a threat. Another important reason is that it's an easy (for them) way to connect with people. The connection is the important thing, not the content of what's said.

Also, smiling/making small talk with someone is a way of showing your perception of their social value (or, what you wish them to think is your perception of their social value). Smiling and making small talk is one of the things that are needed to indicate that you think someone has a neutral social value. Not smiling or making small talk in situations where it is expected is an indicator (whether intended or not) that you think the person has a negative social value.

Are they? I go to movies and restaurants alone sometimes, and no one has ever given me any indication that that's strange. If I saw someone at a restaurant or at a movie alone, I wouldn't give it a second thought. Sometimes a movie comes out which you want to see on the big screen, and the people that you might otherwise go with aren't able to find a babysitter or get time off work. That's the way life is.

I wonder about this, too. There is NOTHING that I want so badly that I want people to go into debt to get it for me. In fact, I would rather get no presents at all than to know that the people I care about went broke because they felt the need to buy something for me. I've already got too much "stuff" taking up space. My mother used to be in the habit of buying way too many presents for people. Now she's almost 71 years old and still doesn't have enough money to retire from a job that she hates, and that wears her out. I wish she had put some of that money into some kind of savings for retirement, rather than buying so many presents.

Apparently there are different types of high fives, too. Someone was introduced to my AS son a few weeks ago, and they stuck their hand out in a way that didn't look quite right for a handshake, but it wasn't up high like for a high-five, either. My son just stood, there, not knowing what to do. I couldn't help him, because I didn't know either. Finally the person said, "Don't I get a high-five?" My son just looked at him, as if to say, "I don't even know you, and you're holding your hand in a weird way, so I don't understand what to do." Eventually the person gave up.

I've had people do that to me, and you never know what they want. Do they want you to slap their hand, or to grab it. Whatever I do, they respond with a nervous laugh, as if they are embarrassed by whatever I did, so now I just ignore the hand. Now that I'm in my 40's I don't run into to many people who feel the need to do that with me, but once in a while I do.

List one NT thing you don't understand:

The angry, frantic hollering at sporting events. I mean like parents watching their kids play on a softball team, or something. I understand the encouraging, friendly, "You can do it!" stuff. But sometimes these people get SO loud, and sound so angry! "Go, GO! GO! GET THE BALL!! !! !! !" It sounds threatening, like if the kid doesn't catch the ball, he'll be getting a beating when he gets home.

That's one thing I hated about PE in school, the way teammates would freak out and yell in a mean way. It always make me want to say, "Fine, if you're going to be like that, I'm not even going to attempt to catch the ball. Screw you and the horse you rode in on."

That's perfect! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.. makes one more thing that I can laugh about and not WORRY about anymore!

You don't say "Thank You" "Thanks" or anything else in response to the "bless you" thing.

It was believed that when you sneeze the devil got in through your mouth. Saying "bless you" got rid of it, but then opening your mouth to say "Thank You" meant that it got back in again.

Oh well. Readhair, Aspie, use left and right (was left-handed) and born by holy-friday. I had people saying that I am the Antichrist... (not joking... )

I was made to sit on my left hand and write with my right hand, and I'm only 38.

Mind you, I did go to a Catholic school, and had a mad nun for my first teacher.

Things I can't understand... gossip. Why?

Men and football. Why?

Hair does. Why?

But by that logic, wouldn't the act of saying 'bless you' let the devil into the person who said THAT? <.<

Why NTs think about unsolvable problem?
For me problem (not mathematical or the like) are:
a) solvable -> so solve it.
b) unsolvable -> so it's not a problem.

People screaming at "popular , public events .

High Fives

Using the popular jargon that makes no sense..... People say "SHUT UP!' when they mean something else.... I don't know what.


People being jealous of someone else.

Envy.


Telling lies.

Playing mind games.... it is not only nasty but can be very dangerous.


Ganging up on another person.

Having extreme negative reactions if they break a finger nail, or the wind blows their hair.

Pushing in front of others in a queue.


Acting if the world has come to an end if a cup, plate or glass is broken.

Getting angry at someone for having an accident or accidentally breaking something..... Geez an accident is just that.....by definition something not planned or deliberately done.

gossipping and cliques...WHY?

the need to pick on those who differ...WHY?