Ashamed of being AS?

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Where I live, it doesn't matter if you tell people or not. The end result is the same. They can see what you do and how you are and that's it. To them it matters not why you are the way you are, just that you are that way. If I made a big deal out of having AS they would use it as a "distancing label" it wouldn't matter much to them.
It depends on what kind of place you live in and the overall mindset of the population. Some places are more open minded, while others everything that impedes or causes disruptive behaviour or what looks like disruptive behaviour is villified. We have people yelling on the news that if everyone were allowed to be more abusive society would be much healthier, there would be less crime, we would all be soooo much happier which, to me, doesn't make any sense. More abuse equals a better society? That's the mindset here. When you have something like AS, especially if you are a young person diagnosed with it, or ADHD, how can you possibly develop healthy coping strategies and ways of thinking in such and environment, the one that promotes the idea that disruptive behaviour or different ways of being are why society is terrible and why everyone must become more abusive in order to correct it? Why would someone want to freely discuss anything that makes them a bit different, ADHD, ADD, AS, BPD or anything else?
It depends on where you live and the overall cultural mindset. If it is open and not incredibly negative it's so much easier to discuss AS but in places where everything but "quiet and still" is labeled bad discussing AS isn't an easy thing to do.

I only tell some people who I think I can trust about it now, they normally don't really care about it or understand me more.
I did get bullied before when my brother said it to two girls and they all started making fun of it and i ran home crying and i felt so ashamed
Now I just choose who i'd trust

I used to be like this but am not now.

People take various times to find their inner strength. Some straight away, some not for ages. Often it takes the transition of child to adult.

I am not ashamed that I have Asperger's Syndrome at all. I find it to be a blessing; an understanding of why and how I act. I believe that everyone has something, so what? I dare any NT or AS person to define what is normal. It is merely a part of who I am as a person. If others don't understand me, or tolerate my eccentricities (even though they don't hurt others or myself), then it is their loss. I know that I'm a good, caring, and compassionate person who is working on my bad temper, time management skills, and trust issues.

I don't tell anyone I have AS. My personal feelings of pride or whatever is irrelevant; what matters is whether I can trust that the person will not react in a bad way to it, and I don't have that level of trust even with my family (though they know about it anyway). What I would really like people to do when they find out I have AS is carry on treating me in exactly the same way, so I have nothing to gain from it too.

Not ashamed of AS, only the things it makes me do!

I generally do not tell people unless it serves a particular need. This is primarily because I feel it rather presumptious of me that other people care and want to hear about it. However, there are some people I'd definately avoid telling. Either telling people will allow them to understand the reason for my action better or it will start making them expect me to act in specific ways. Anyone likely to hold such expectations will not be told is possible.