How does an NT experience anger?

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After what I've been through, if I was ever put in that situation again I would probably draw blood, if not outright killing someone. I have too many bad memories to let myself relive them again in that type of scenario.

I can't even begin to imagine what the effects of constant put-downs, being pushed around physically, and not having an escape did for me at home. For a long time I used video games because that was all I had.

The worst part is that when I bring it up to my mother, she still refuses to hear my side, or try to understand. She thinks she already knows exactly what happened, and when she pulls that I get extremely angry, and I can just see my eyes turning red.

really? wow. well theyve of course always told me it was normal behaviour for parents, so i guess i wouldnt know. i dont know if i have AS though. i might be more guilty than i know, i guess.




yep. and if you bring it up, not only will she disagree and stuff, but she gets snappy and makes sure to interrupt you as much as possible.

In terms of "NT" anger? I'll use an example of my own life here to be a test case along with all the other endearing people whom have already posted his/her response..Basically, I recall many years ago during a time when I was deeply involved with my mate at that time and in fact, there happened to be one such incident which, I was completey dumbfounded by in that, I could not see how or what I had said and did to make her(my mate) angry..Honestly, the whole time I was running many variables though my mind to figure what in the heck caused all of this tension between the two of us at that time. Eventually, my mate after being silent for close to 2hrs finally opened up and explained to me that, it was my apparent lack of awareness of her thoughts and feelings at that time she become upset.. That was the only time we had chaos though in times onward I've tried to better monitor and pick up on specific signals which, indicate something is wrong from either facial expressions or non-verbal cues..

That's not a "normal" NT behavior; on the contrary, it's completely abnormal. NT's are not acting usually like that, not even feeling or responding that way.

But that, yes. They usually can

I do think that one of the main problems with anger may come from the fact that we are aware of this feeling in others much more than in ourselves.

Hope your problems will be solved

I rarely had this issue with my parents because, quite simply, I hid away in my room for the majority of the time or pursued my interests.
The one time my father did corner me and confront me was when I was starving myself to death at the time I was anorexic.
My reaction, I recall, was to simply start screaming, then to walk round and round my room in circles.
Same today, if I feel cornered or trapped etc, I will simply open my mouth and scream as the words don't come. I am not very good at shouting and arguments.