Spotting an Aspie/NT

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20 Jan 2010, 8:40 am

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I can tell if someone is different by covert behaviour, but I would not know if the person was actually AS. There could be many reasons why people behave as they do.

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20 Jan 2010, 10:31 am

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I can spot an aspie who is doing bench presses or squats, provided they aren't using too much weight. I'd feel more comfortable if they asked someone else to spot them.

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21 Jan 2010, 12:16 am

I don't dare to go to the gym now...

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21 Jan 2010, 12:40 am

I knew one guy who I thought might have been. Unfashionable clothes, bad hair, keeps to himself mostly. Anyway I got him to do the AQ test, he got 22. Hmm schitzoid? Anyway of all the people I know (which is not many) I felt he was the most likely. So I doubt I know anyone.

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21 Jan 2010, 12:44 am

flamingshorts wrote:

I knew one guy who I thought might have been. Unfashionable clothes, bad hair, keeps to himself mostly. Anyway I got him to do the AQ test, he got 22. Hmm schitzoid?

Anyway of all the people I know (which is not many) I felt he was the most likely. So I doubt I know anyone.

Yay someone might look AQ... who knows he might be an introverted lazy bum? But I ain't Rush Limbaugh, lol...

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21 Jan 2010, 12:23 pm

Puzelle wrote:

This topic may seem a little weird. But I've really given it some thought, and now I just wonder how others see it.

I often hear from people that they can spot Aspies easily, and about the traits that make us Aspies stand out. Even in Aspies circles (on the net, but also outside it) we talk a lot about what out traits are.

So it was natural for me to ask myself, if I can actually tell who may be an Aspies and who are NTs.
My result is, that I can't see any difference at all, except for one thins: Those who react normally to me are usually Aspies. Those who become awquard, won't talk to me, or who get angry with me, are NTs.

All the stuff about how we're different and so on ... I don't see any of it. I don't mean that I think it isn't there. I just don't see it.

So now I'm curious to hear if there're others who have the same experience as I do?

I'd love to hear from NTs and Aspies both. ^^

Puzelle.

i dont judge well whether a person has AS by his/her online persona at all. most nt ppl behave differently online, and dare i say, more strangely.
but i can tell apart an AS person during the first couple of moments of meeting him/her. usually by unusual eye contact, out of place body gestures/movements and sometimes tone of voice. and the moment i know for a fact that they have AS is when i get them to talk about their obsessions/interests on and on for 30 minutes nonstop. =)

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21 Jan 2010, 1:26 pm

I am a NT mom of a son waiting to be diagnosed but is assumed to have AS. I can pick out someone with it because they behave a lot like my ds and well he automatically can find one because he just "knows" that person is like him. So far I enjoy his true friends because they act so much more mature and are more respectful then NT kids his age. I guess that is what stands out to me the most is not the tics or what others consider strange it is the mature behavior--our friends son is autistic and that is the first thing that everyone says to her is he is so mature for his age. Around adults I wait to see who ds approaches first and makes a good connection with--so far he has been right.

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21 Jan 2010, 3:11 pm

cosmiccat wrote:

elderwanda wrote:

I can spot an aspie who is doing bench presses or squats, provided they aren't using too much weight. I'd feel more comfortable if they asked someone else to spot them.

I think an explanation is in order. When Elderwanda said she could spot an aspie she was making a joke using a play on words. To spot someone is a weight-lifting term meaning to help them (in case they drop the weights and get injured) while they are working out with weights (barbells). If you're not familiar with the sport of weight-lifting you might not be aware of this term.

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21 Jan 2010, 11:04 pm

Oh I see. I wasn't familiar with such terms. Thank you.

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21 Jan 2010, 11:06 pm

Unless they have the word "Aspie" written on their forehead, I wouldn't be able to spot one.

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22 Jan 2010, 4:11 am

Why should we go around and spot those forehands labelled 'Aspie' anyway? As if we have nothing better to do.

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Just joking...

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22 Jan 2010, 4:57 am

My mum says u can spot them 'a mile off' but i doubt it. There's so much overlap between aspies and shy/nerdy NTs. I've met a dozen or so autistic people in real life and for some you'd just never guess. I guess they're a minority though. I'd say for most, even if they've got good at social skills, there's something eccentric about them, but there's a lot of eccentric NTs too.

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22 Jan 2010, 8:57 pm

I can definitely spot an aspie...I even have a bad habit of "diagnosing" others as aspie or aspie-like. I've met many people on the spectrum, so I seem to have a good idea of what constitutes 'Aspieness'. Then again, I've met two or three people on the spectrum (actually diagnosed and all) that have deceptively NT-esque mannerisms and appearance. It was only when I get to know them and their interests that I discovered where the diagnosis came from.

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23 Jan 2010, 3:07 am

I can't tell.
But I also can't tell a total loser from a 'great catch', or a caring friend from a potential pimp.

I'm just hopeless at that stuff.

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03 Dec 2010, 5:58 pm

For me Im always attempting to aspie spot but I cant really tell most of the time. Theres many people who Ive suspected to be aspie but I've come unconclusive. Theres only 1 guy who I've spotted as aspie and Im very sure he is but i think he's undiagnosed. Theres a lot of NT's with some aspie traits but it doesnt make them aspie. Like my prof, has the intense interest symptom and hes like a friggin robot with obsessively doing problems within his interest but his communication abilities is fine. My friend who I strongly suspected as aspie once, can be rather blunt and inconsiderate peoples feelings and he has a lot of weird quirkiness about him but then he seems to read body language pretty decently. So I dont know besides he's from China so he's got the cultural differences to account for.

Theres a lot quirky NT's out there too. It seems that people on this board dont seem to recognize that. Some people think NT=normal=boring, ordinary. Seriously, if you look closer, you'll see that many NT's got there differences with quirky personalities. I find that I make friends best with NT's that got something really interesting about them, better then normal NT's and aspies in general. Its sorta a compromise. People that can still communicate well and form good bonds but have something interesting about them.

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03 Dec 2010, 7:28 pm

Asperger Syndrome is a condition so rare (1 person in 300, I think) that I doubt that is possible spot them; much probably you will interact with so few aspies during your life that will be very difficult to "train" an Aspie-dar.

Said that, I have a co-worker that I am suspecting of Aspies tendencies - she is a single women of about 50 y.o., how, when explaining some thing, talks endlessly about that, with irrelevant details, and seems to have very difficult in understating jokes.

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