Ever felt like you don't fit into any group?

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Most people tend to do that often and in London where I live, its like I have to constantly have to be careful when i'm joining groups because something to do with gangs and that and they ain't as it used to be like 30 years ago.

I don't seem to understand why they are starting to use weapons and that.. its pretty pointless if you look at it this way and its sad they are taking other peoples life... Its certainly not good and scary to possibly see your child scared, wow!

I feel like I don't sometimes. If I don't know these groups of people or if I don't like them then usually I do my best to stay away. If I get along with them then its fine.

Yeah, although strangely enough in my experience, HS was better in a lot of ways. Even though it was very clique-ish there was one group that I hung out with that was sort of the catch-all misc. clique for everyone who didn't fit it elsewhere. Most cliques were of the jock/prep/popular kids variety, the one I hung out with was all nerds, theater kids, everyone who worked on the school newspaper, and the handful of punks & goths who went to our school. Most of us had known each other since elementary school and tended to hang out together anyway. By senior year the clique thing no longer seemed to matter though, everyone got along much better.

College was much different, VERY clique-oriented, much stricter in a lot of ways than what I was used to. Everyone seemed to judge you by who you hung out with, went out with, what music you listened to, what you wore...Found this extended into the workforce and really, it never ends.

What I hate more than anything is the attitude some people take where its "If you hang out with THAT person, I CAN'T associate with you." I've experienced this more times at work than I would ever have thought possible. I seem to have a knack for befriending the outcasts which in turn makes me an outcast.

I have never found a group I fit into.

If the Island of Misfit Toys was a real place I would move there.

I used to crave attention and was incredibly lonely, doing anything to be in a group of one variety or another. Now I see the popular people I used to admire from a distance slowly turning into domestic blobs or party whores and now I do anything to not be anything like them. I get metal hair, piercings, weird clothes, anything to stop me from becoming another domestic cattle the meat market that is my life. I refuse to be anyone but myself with little compromise now. My manager is really the only thing from looking crazy. (I would get fired if I was crazy looking)

I feel that way also. I'm supposed to get plugged into a club at school, but I never am.

Well, I would never set foot in a church ever again because I'm apparently a dreadful sinner, but I try to be nice to other Christians. If I was mean to other Christians, I'd be just as bad as those racist KKK f***s (though to less severity). That and I kinda have to be nice to every other christian because I'm the only non-Christian in a old world religion family. They'd verbally crucify me if I mentioned my crystal healing or slight pagan tendencies.

I like shows like the Simpsons, Family Guy, and South Park (which are all frequently criticized by the Parents Television Council for their content), and I also like indie/foreign/art-house films (which are usually unrated, but of which some have content similar to a movie that is rated NC-17--to conservative Christians, it's no better than watching porn). I also feel that it's ok to have sex outside of marriage and that it shouldn't just be for procreation, and I support abortion under certain conditions, and I support civil unions (but not actual same-sex marriage). These are what get me in hot water with conservative Christians, which dominate Texas.

I am in hot water with artsy, liberal, hipster-ish people because I am a Christian and I vote Republican. Those people tend to think that all Christians and all Republicans are racist, sexist, elitist, and homophobic.

Me too.

I do kind of fit in with people that are into music but then they say something that insults me and I leave them.
I used to be black and white in my thinking but I'm more open minded now, so that I even struggle to get along with other autistic people.

That's funny you mentioned the Island of Misfit Toys. That's EXACTLY what I was thinking.

When I was a kid I thought that it would be a nice place to go.

You could try and do your own autism advocacy?
But I don't know how you could do that? But I know somehow it's possible.

By the way, do you think it was the type of music you liked that they didn't like would you think?

No, it was more to do with their sense of humor.

It takes me years before I feel like I belong to a group. I will either leave a group too soon or stay way too long. I will attend events and do other things to try to feel like I'm a part of the group. But, I am usually painfully aware I am not a part of the group. I'd rather have someone tell me bluntly I don't belong rather than me keep trying and trying. Most of the time I feel like I'm physically separated from the group even though I'm sitting around the same table. It's so painful when I realize the other people in the group get together and do things and have their inside jokes that they don't include me on. Most of the time I will just drift out of the group and nobody will ask me where I've been. At my last major job the rest of the non-physician employees went out to lunch together on a regular basis but never invited me.

I've learned it's better to not even try anymore. Living in my own little world is much safer and much more comfortable.

When I was at school I always found that I didn't quite fit into any group completely.. Was always a bit on the outside looking in. A good analogy was that I felt like I was behind glass all the time somewhat stuck.. I couldn't really ever reach out if that makes sense.

I actually had a large group of friends at school but the reality was that none of us really fitted in so we hung out together.. Quite weird when you think about it.. We were quite a mixed bunch of girls who all drifted in and out of the group at different times - arty types; brainy nerds; average but annoying to most; hyperactive; moody; loud; quiet; opinionated; funny; easy going; theatrical; ethnic minorities. I think I brought most of them together and I still remember them all fondly.. I wish adulthood was like school sometimes. As an adult I feel that I don't fit in more profoundly than I ever did and I don't try to either.

Always been looking and never found. Other people just seem so in place around others but I'm usually just feeling distant.

One successes have been finding people of similar intellectual temperament upon reaching post-graduate university. That helps that aspect of me, one however of only so much importance. I can also feel comfortable around some others with psychological problems, although that doesn't mean I then necessarily find their company enjoyable. Of the two autism groups I've been to, maybe only one or two people were similar enough for a connection, but at least I didn't feel so excluded.

ye, i fit in with the skaters/ bmxers cuz that's what i am. i hang out skateparks, and ride street with many of my freinds for a while my skater bmxer freinds were in too groups ones from my neiberhood who i hung out with outside of school, and the ones i skate and bmx with at school during lunch but never saw outside of school but last summer everything changed when they the ones from school invited me to meet them at skate parks over the summer( thank god for facebook to keep in touch) this contruined in the fall then i was taking ski and snowboard videos for them at hills( even tho i don't ski or board went to be the flimer and latter the editor) still am and in the spring and summer we will hit up more skate parks and go downtown to ride street also a skater that i skated withb a few years ago at school but graduted and haven't seen since might street skate with me in the spring cuz i wrote on his wall he hasn't wrote back yet but i hope he will.