Why are we loud?

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I am a quiet person who is never, or very rarely, loud,

I think that there is a relationship between loud speaking and multitasking.
Because the aspie person (e.g me) thinks the thing that he is saying on that time, he can't think about his volume.
So it causes to speak too loud or too quiet that anyone can't hear.

There might be also another reason that relates to loud speaking.
And that is directly about not being a social person.
Because of the aspie don't talk to anyone for hours unless the he is in a public place, and there is a lot of people.
This makes the person to talk about something, and when the aspie find the right person to tell something, it makes the aspie so happy and excited.
Because of the happiness and excitement, the aspie says things in a loud and excited way at the same time, and the excitement again causes to be more non-multitasker.

These two simple reasons that attached to each other are the main causes of speaking loud.
(social multitaskers probably doesn't have a problem like this )

On the sensory level it could also be related to hypo-sensitivity (being too loud) as opposed to hyper-sensitivity (being too quiet).

My Dad always asks me "how can your ears be so sensitive, but you can't tell how loud your voice is?"

On the flip side, I know he barely gives a sh!t about hearing half the things I tell him, so there's that....

I'm only loud when I get excited and happy about something I'm talking about.
Then they tell me to stop screaming and I get grumpy because I don't think that it should be of any importance of how loud I am when discussing something that is interesting, and then I start thinking that they didn't really care to begin with and I stop talking.

Otherwise I'm a quiet talker.

I usually speak too quietly. Yes, sometimes I have difficulty controlling my volume, though. Apparently I talked too loud as a kid.

I usually speak too quietly. Yes, sometimes I have difficulty controlling my volume, though. Apparently I talked too loud as a kid.

This is an interesting topic, because for me, I like quietness. And I consider myself a quiet person. But, I cannot tell you how many times I have been speaking in a public place (quiet type restaurant, etc.) to my wife in what I thought was a quiet tone and she says, "sshhh." Then she looks around to see if anyone heard me. For example, last night we ate out at a Mexican/Italian restaurant. There was a lady standing outside the restaurant adjacent to the window by our booth. She was smoking quickly (really fast trying to finish before entering). I made a quiet (in my opinion) comment to my wife, and my wife says, "sshhh" and acts embarrassed and looks around to see if anyone heard me. So I guess I am louder than I think. One time, about a year ago, I caught myself being loud that surprised me and caused restaurant customers to stare. A man was leaving the restaurant (the exit was close to our table) and was on his cell phone. He spoke into the phone and said, "bye." I said rather loudly, "bye!" My wife nearly went under the table.

like I said, more than anything with this, I get extremely frustrated; I'm told no matter how much I lower my voice, it's still like a freakin' "sonic boom"...so when I'm told I'm somewhere that's so loud, other folks can't hear me...I don't buy it for a second.

I say "just admit you don't care what I have to say"; it's that simple.

"but you won't be cool with that" would be the response.

"who said I'd be cool with it? I'm already disgusted...ya think yer doin' yourself any favors by first lying to me, then admitting you don't even respect me enough to listen to me? kinda already dug the hole for y'self" is my ultimate answer...

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My husband says I'm loud but but but I always have the TV down and I keep the music down and if the TV is too loud, he has to tell me so I can turn it down.
I also talk loud and don't even realize it.