lucky0979
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: 17 Oct 2009
Age: 45
Gender: Male
Posts: 49
Location: east yorkshire, england
30 Mar 2010, 1:53 pm
30 Mar 2010, 3:35 pm
30 Mar 2010, 5:06 pm
Willard wrote:
MichelleRM78 wrote:
Hmmm. I disagree with most of this.
SHOCK!MichelleRM78 wrote:
A child can believe that parental decisions on his/her behalf, and the child should believe that. I don't think that has anything to do with respect, however.
Even children (above the level of toddlers) can understand that an adult with more life experience than they have, who provides for their welfare, food and housing deserved to be heeded and obeyed without defiance and impudence. That is the very definition of respect.
I am not talking about unquestioningly cowering beneath someone who tortures you. Of course, children and teens often convince themselves that adults who make decisions on their behalf which they don't like, are being intentionally cruel. That's because they don't have enough life experience or maturity yet to determine what's best, safest or healthiest for them.
MichelleRM78 wrote:
I also don't believe that a child cannot earn respect until they display maturity of any form. I may be misunderstanding what you are saying here, but children can be respected and should be respected in each and every developmental stage.
I believe I covered that with the phrase "basic human dignity and the sanctity of life".
I appreciate that adults have more life experience and thus are better equipped to decide how to deal with a situation, but adults are human beings and they are wrong sometimes too. I certainly don't think it's wrong to point out when an older adult is being hypocritical or unreasonable.
30 Mar 2010, 9:42 pm
30 Mar 2010, 9:59 pm
31 Mar 2010, 11:53 am
31 Mar 2010, 2:06 pm
Willard wrote:
MichelleRM78 wrote:
Hmmm. I disagree with most of this.
SHOCK!MichelleRM78 wrote:
A child can believe that parental decisions on his/her behalf, and the child should believe that. I don't think that has anything to do with respect, however.
Even children (above the level of toddlers) can understand that an adult with more life experience than they have, who provides for their welfare, food and housing deserved to be heeded and obeyed without defiance and impudence. That is the very definition of respect.
I am not talking about unquestioningly cowering beneath someone who tortures you. Of course, children and teens often convince themselves that adults who make decisions on their behalf which they don't like, are being intentionally cruel. That's because they don't have enough life experience or maturity yet to determine what's best, safest or healthiest for them.
MichelleRM78 wrote:
I also don't believe that a child cannot earn respect until they display maturity of any form. I may be misunderstanding what you are saying here, but children can be respected and should be respected in each and every developmental stage.
I believe I covered that with the phrase "basic human dignity and the sanctity of life".
LOL. I don't think that any child should be expected to obey without defiance-- not at all. They should be taught to question authority with respect. That's how children learn to think for themselves. It's how they learn to function in an unfair world. I don't think children should be controlled by adults. We are here to guide, keep them safe, and help them make good decisions. If we don't allow them to make those decisions and only do what they are told to do, we are missing a huge part of what parenting is all about.
I don't think that basic human dignity and sanctity of life actually covers it at all. Each child should actually be respected.
31 Mar 2010, 2:56 pm
