10 May 2010, 6:42 am
If you wer to see my music collection; you would not believe that I am straight-edge & a borderline asexual 
feelings mutual; if you met me in public, you'd never think that I love tasteless humor, including involving racial stereotypes and things like that. You'd even be surprised to hear me using profanity. You might even be shocked to know I enjoy some '80s hair metal, and horror movies.
Yes, when people meet me they act like someone has walked right out of their television set from either a PSA or an episode of Leave it to Beaver.
I kid you not.
10 May 2010, 8:07 am
wendigopsychosis
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10 May 2010, 8:39 am
I never used to, but over the past few years I've been learning more and more about social customs and being "normal," so I've become more aware of how I babble on and people don't care...
(I didn't actually learn until a couple months ago how to tell when someone doesn't care about what I'm saying! God, it's a depressing revelation.)
I don't hide at all around my close friends, family or my boyfriend, but around strangers or people I'm not as comfortable with, I tend to not mention practically anything I care about...
What I absolutely love is that I've been recently introduced to a family friend of my boyfriend's family who is definitely NT, but has a curiosity about the world similar to myself. We were out to dinner once with him and I have no idea how it happened, but I somehow briefly mentioned toxoplasmosis, and no one else seemed to care, but he suddenly perked up and said, "wait, wait, back up, what was that? keep going! that sounded really cool! how does that work?!" with such enthusiasm! It was incredible! So I happily rambled on and on about toxoplasmosis and its effect on rats while he listened intently nodding and gasping and such. Everyone else around the table kind of stared and then went back to their own conversations, but he kept listening and commenting about how interesting it was, and it was probably one of my happiest moments hahaha. I realize how pathetic that sounds, but man, it was cool.
Wait until you experience someone who cares about your special interests, it's one of the most amazing feelings.
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10 May 2010, 11:19 am
I dont really talk to people that I dont know well or who dont know me. However if someone strikes up a conversation with me like there have been times when Im at my kids swim class or something....I sometimes cant help it. I always bring the conversation around to my interests. I even annoy my kids..."Cant you talk about something else?". I do make an effort to listen to other people but when Im comfortable with people I have the habit of interjecting or interrupting. When things are pointed out to me I usually say..."Yeah, I need to work on that". I guess Im a work in progress 
. At least now I know why I do things, its just trying to stop that is difficult. So....no, Im not very good at hiding my special interests.
10 May 2010, 1:45 pm
(I didn't actually learn until a couple months ago how to tell when someone doesn't care about what I'm saying! God, it's a depressing revelation.)
I don't hide at all around my close friends, family or my boyfriend, but around strangers or people I'm not as comfortable with, I tend to not mention practically anything I care about...
What I absolutely love is that I've been recently introduced to a family friend of my boyfriend's family who is definitely NT, but has a curiosity about the world similar to myself. We were out to dinner once with him and I have no idea how it happened, but I somehow briefly mentioned toxoplasmosis, and no one else seemed to care, but he suddenly perked up and said, "wait, wait, back up, what was that? keep going! that sounded really cool! how does that work?!" with such enthusiasm! It was incredible! So I happily rambled on and on about toxoplasmosis and its effect on rats while he listened intently nodding and gasping and such. Everyone else around the table kind of stared and then went back to their own conversations, but he kept listening and commenting about how interesting it was, and it was probably one of my happiest moments hahaha. I realize how pathetic that sounds, but man, it was cool.
Wait until you experience someone who cares about your special interests, it's one of the most amazing feelings.
Here's a key way to tell if you're talking to people who don't care: if they keep saying "oh yeah?"
That translates to: "I don't care"
I actually have a "code" for it myself, but I don't tell people what it is; throw 'em off a bit.
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10 May 2010, 4:48 pm
(I didn't actually learn until a couple months ago how to tell when someone doesn't care about what I'm saying! God, it's a depressing revelation.)
I don't hide at all around my close friends, family or my boyfriend, but around strangers or people I'm not as comfortable with, I tend to not mention practically anything I care about...
What I absolutely love is that I've been recently introduced to a family friend of my boyfriend's family who is definitely NT, but has a curiosity about the world similar to myself. We were out to dinner once with him and I have no idea how it happened, but I somehow briefly mentioned toxoplasmosis, and no one else seemed to care, but he suddenly perked up and said, "wait, wait, back up, what was that? keep going! that sounded really cool! how does that work?!" with such enthusiasm! It was incredible! So I happily rambled on and on about toxoplasmosis and its effect on rats while he listened intently nodding and gasping and such. Everyone else around the table kind of stared and then went back to their own conversations, but he kept listening and commenting about how interesting it was, and it was probably one of my happiest moments hahaha. I realize how pathetic that sounds, but man, it was cool.
Wait until you experience someone who cares about your special interests, it's one of the most amazing feelings.
Here's a key way to tell if you're talking to people who don't care: if they keep saying "oh yeah?"
That translates to: "I don't care"
I actually have a "code" for it myself, but I don't tell people what it is; throw 'em off a bit.
umm I say "oh yeah?" a lot when I do care & am interested because I don't know what else to say sometimes.
I don't socialize offline much at all & I only have a couple friends offline. I do talk about the music stuff a lot online if I find people who are also into it or want to be but I listen to lots of other music as well(the parodies are much funnier if I know the originals
so I may mention a parody of a song the person I'm talking to likes & see how he/she responds. Unfortunately teens may be more into that stuff than adults & I'm much more obsessed with it than them & talking to em makes me feel old sometimes.
10 May 2010, 9:05 pm
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