male autistics vs female autistics

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I think that Aspergia (Asperger syndrome community) and autistic community at large is more symmetrical than people think in terms of the ratios of men and women it is just that women tend to be better at masking than men due to the social expectations of society. But women are more likely to be misdiagnosed with other conditions such as personality disorders. That doesn't mean that men don't get misdiagnosed with conditions like borderline personality disorder, generalised anxiety disorders, etc. I was misdiagnosed as having BPD in 1999. I was diagnosed at 36 years old as having Asperger syndrome on June 26th 2003. My girlfriend who also has Asperger syndrome was diagnosed at 3. It is usually the men who get an early diagnosis and women getting diagnosed in adulthood but for some strange reason she had an early diagnosis and I had the late one.

It depends on the male. It depends on the female.

Males seem to be affected worse than females in most neurological disorders, including ADHD, Fragile-X and even depression. I'm NOT trivializing these disorders in women though. I'm just saying that women may be better at hiding their condition in some situations and are better at opening up about their feelings when appropriate. It might be to do with hormone differences. Conditions in women tend to be more complex and not so stereotypical.

The same.
* Women are underdiagnosed, so diagnosis rate can't be a basis. It amused me to no end when I read a published study that noticed the (mostly) inexpressive Aspie men had (mostly) overly expressive mothers... it suggested that the men were Aspie as a result of pressures from these emotional NT mothers; it did not occur to them that (some of) these highly expressive mothers were themselves Aspie.
* Most women (and some men) may be more "social" but the standards are higher for women (and "social" men), so the relative lack of "fit" remains equal. The men I know who are Aspie or ND have had more success than the women (of course that's in the NT population also ---- which would imply the ASD is a neutral factor relative to gender cultural norms). My grandfather's idiosyncrasies were tolerated: he was a genius. My grandmother was institutionalized: she was crazy. I see from their writings that they were both equally talented. He was inexpressive; she was expressive. Who hid better?

It really depends on the person. For example I'm female, but my autism seems to present itself in a more masculine manner. I have much more in common, generally speaking, with autistic males than with other autistic females.

I don't think you can say either is more, I think females just tend to respond differently. I was told where I varied by my bullies and I studied to fix it, learning slang, getting involved in the popular jokes and viral videos and taking to learning about body language and how to manipulate responses to make people like you. Me seeming more NT then is not then because mine is more mild, but because I spent loads of time learning to fake things. Girls tend to do things like this so they seem normal and our problems present differently a lot too. They can still be very difficult.

Specifically define 'more autistic'.


Is it someone's set of traits whose emphasized on social isolation, lack of language abilties and emotional bluntness?
Was it one's with traits emphasized on lack of self-help skills, impulsivity and learning disabilities -- the 'low functioning' ones?

Or is this based on circumstances; badly failing parents, cannot adapt, no friends, constantly bullied, no relationships to speak of, cannot fit in, failing at every jobs, higher chances of mental and physical illness, requires higher support and maintenance, etc..
Whether one desires it or not?

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Both Autistic males and females are disadvantaged in life and we are not accepted by NTs. The NTs will blame us for everything and never accept us because our bad luck of having Aspergers. The NTs can get stuffed, we did not choose to have Aspergers. We are a lost cause in regards to ever being able to compete with the extroverted NTs in regards to opportunities in life.