Hating babies & children

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I dislike being around babies & small children for a myriad of reasons.... Babies are always coming up with a sudden shrill noise, they're smelly, and I know I don't have the "eyes in the back of my head" to notice when something's wrong, let alone know what to do about it if I did notice. One of the worst nights of terror in my life, was when a young woman who lived next door to me (and I found attractive), asked me to watch her infant and toddler while she went to a class for 3 hours. I did it, and it was all good, but my blood pressure must have been about 200% of safe limits, and I was so emotionally drained from it, that I made sure I was always busy from that day forward so as not to get asked again. And just to set the record straight and to be fair, they were good kids.

Charles

I don't think your feelings about babies have anything to do with your AS. My eldest with AS is crazy about them, likes them better than any other age group. I think that's just how he is, nothing to do with his AS either. If their smell and mess bothers you that sounds more like a touch of OCD...or more than a touch if you've got it.

Personally I don't think everybody is meant to love babies or love animals. I do have a big problem with anybody being cruel to animals, babies, or anybody. That to me is a huge character flaw. Not liking something or someone isn't as big a deal as how one chooses to deal with it.

I had a friend who hated kids. Then he married a girl who wanted a bunch of them. Now he still hates kids, but only everybody else's kids. He loves his own and tolerates all that gross stuff that bothered him before if it's his kids. That's just him. I'm not saying you'd like your own. If you don't want them, don't have them.

** Quick question as I am new here.
With regards to that linked post above.
I have been cruising around for several days now and have bumped in to many posts that have ZERO to do w talking about symptoms, solutions, likes/dislikes, experiences etc

That above post is demented & profane.
What happens to these posts and are the people banned?

That post certainly had nothing to do w anything relevant here - murderous revenge/torture fantasies.
Why are people like that even here?
Attention?

One thing I want to add to this thread: I don't like the word "HATE". I don't use it, and to me it means an unhealthy, dangerous emotion that should not be felt under most any circumstances. I dislike certain things and certain people, but the difference is that when I say "dislike", it means I just don't want anything to do with that person or those things. I can be angry at a person or a group of people, but to me, that's different from hate. If angry, no matter why, I still do not have any interest in hurting or destroying them. I might want them to make it right, or to go away out of MY life, but when I hear "HATE", I think of someone who wants to hurt or destroy a person or object. I've never hated anyone in my life, and never will. It takes a lot less emotional energy to just dislike, and keep yourself above it. Case in point: If someone is mean to me, or to my family, I dislike them and may be angry. But I will still stop and rescue them from a river, if they fall in. As I perceive "hate", I'd need to stop and watch them suffer and drown. That would make me feel more evil than anything else, and I wouldn't like that feeling.

Charles

Good point Charles. I agree with you that it is a very strong word, but people sometimes don't mean it as seriously as that so I cut them some slack. It's so hard to tell in a written format how much is meant, you know?

I have never liked babies and when I tell people this, they assume I'm evil or something because I'm a woman. People think I should looooove kids and babies, but they just leave me feeling cold. I went with my boyfriend's sister to target and she was all looking at some random baby oooohing and ahhhhing and I was just standing there thinking about how stupid she looked.

Such thoughts are fine if they remain only thoughts. Everyone has these types of thoughts sometimes, even if it's just when they're angry, and I still think all humans are sadistic by nature anyway.

I think that out of all the people who's posted in this thread, that I'm a very unique case, that I love one and hate the other.