Do You Get Scared When People Wanna Be Friends w/You?

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I am not going to get involved with anyone anymore unless the relationship is naturally occurring. I'm not making plans to meet or hang out. They want something or why bother to go through the 'meet up' thing. I'm not going to get along with anyone that is bored enough to just reach out like that to meet new people. I'm not someone that will be penciled in to fill up empty spaces on someone's social interaction card. go away

Yes, I get uneasy when interacting in person with people because I don't understand their intentions. Women don't usually approach me for friendship. Sometimes guys do, but I'm easily confused in trying to figure out their intentions so my method has always been to just avoid them altogether. Sometimes it makes me sad because I'd like a friend but it's just too difficult.

It seems like it's easier to make friends online because everything's written, so I can have time to think about what they've said and what I'll say. And here, people seem to understand.

Even after I meet someone in person and start hanging out I always worry that I will do or say something wrong or stupid and a possible friendship gets torpedoed before it has a chance to grow. I try my best sometimes but it may just not be good enough.

Yes. I can never be sure what their true intentions are. When people said they wanted to be my friends, they never did want to be my friends. They would only laugh at me, or have me help them with their school work. Odd as it may seem, I trust people online better.

Well, I don't like having lots of friends, so yeah... I get nervous about what to say. I don't want to say, "No! I don't want to be your friend! *puts hands over ears* La la la la la!! !! !" I don't know how to handle it. I already have enough friends.

Yes, espicaly if it is sudden. It took me years to be comfortable with my current best friend considering me her friend and vice versa. If a total stranger comes up to me wanting to be friends or make simple small talk, I want to run away screaming like this kid in an Invader Zim eppisode. If someone approaches me about beifn friends in vet school, that's extactaly what I will do.

---I have reached out to be someone's friend because I wanted nothing more than to be their friend and I thought they were to shy to initiate it themselves.
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---But I have also met lots of people who pretended to want to be friends because they wanted something from me.
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---I have met others who have approached me to be friends with them and wanted nothing more than to be friends and have fun.
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---I'm always cautious like all of you because in the beginning I never know. -------------------------------------------------------------
---It's okay to be quiet if you have nothing to say. If someone doesn't like it or accept it, they're not worth being friends with and can gfts.
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---I'm usually very quiet unless there's something to ask or to answer about if I'm asked a question. But I love to laugh and will whenever I see or hear something hilarious.
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---Taupey

I am a new member as of tonight (July 19th 2010.)
I avoid interaction at all cost. I feel the same why would anyone want to hang out with someone that won't talk.
I can drive across country with anyone and never say a word. Things rush thru my head as I mentally count things such as the side of the license plate on the car ahead of me...1234,or I count post of a fence,wonder who may have lived at that old farm house,oblivious as to what might be being said to me...my answer when I answer would be yeah,uh hu,ok,maybe,hmmm.
I can not converse back nor do I usually want to.
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I get paranoid. Because most of my friends use me, because I go overboard, and give to much to the relationships in hopes to make it work. I'm too open like a book. I have to learn to be more reserved. There was a semi homeless old man who nurtured my love for ego feeding spritual claptrap, saying that I was open very "aware". Every time I had a phone conversation, (progressed from bus stop intellectualism), he'd be in need for money, or smokes, or food. I being a kind hearted person, and bought into his "Merlin" mystism (see Sword in Stone or Sorcerer's Apprentice).

Eventually I dropped him and his leecherous ways. It seems that most of my relationships wern't geniune, they were based on people wanting something from me. Like my neighbor who wanted to come over to escape his overbearing mom, because I had a Super nintendo. But when he got a "pentium" he mysterously disappeared.

yes.

Yes.
I've been burned too many times to not be a little wary of friendly people. I never know specifically what I need to be careful of though, so I think it might come off as paranoia (which is weird since I'm pretty naïve )