what kind of friends do you have?

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What do you mean by that?

I used to have friends. But unfortunately, I had friends when I was still keeping up the act and pretending to be NT, to be "normal," to be interested in things that normal people are interested in and respond the way they do. About a year ago, I stopped pretending, and since then coupled with a change in career, all of my friends have cut off contact with me. I have a few acquaintances through work/university, but I wouldn't call them "friends." Just colleagues. The person I spend most of my time with is my paternal grandmother, who is 75 and interesting. I often wondered if I would benefit from making more friends, but what I quickly learned at university was that they all seem to be the same, like they're preprogrammed.

I have some friends here. I don't really have any offline though, not even my workmates are considered pals.

Most of my friends have AS. I have one friend who has HFA, and another who has more severe autism. My friends are within a wide age range; the kid who has classic autism is my youngest friend and is 16. On the other hand, my French teacher is someone I can consider a friend, and he's 46 years old, I believe. My most long-term friend (and I consider him my best friend, as we contact each other regularly) is NT, but has OCD and social anxiety. I have several other NT friends, but they're all in their 30s or older. There was no one at school whom I could really consider to be my friend. The people who talked to me either saw that I struggled and wanted to help me out, or wanted to get some kind of help from me (depended on the subject). I had an acquaintance in Grade 9 and 10 (he was in grade 11 and 12 at the time), but he's nothing more than an acquaintance. He's a nice guy, though.

I have made lots of different kinds of friends in the past but most of them were weird in their own ways.

No schizophrenics or sociopaths as far as I know. I've had a lot of gay male friends and I really miss that, I understood them like many women are "supposed" to understand each other. Those were probably the best relationships I've had.

Most of my female friends were dark or different in someway but still very sweet. I bounced around through different groups once I actually decided to start making friends around 8th grade and I was definitely rejected by some people for being too weird but I was seeking out the weird people anyway. I found relatively weird, interesting people in a lot of different cliques.

I'm really not very social these days but as far as who I'm known with I guess it's pretty diverse, lots of people know who I am. I never really made any rules or had guidelines about who my friends were gong to be, I just knew who I liked and didn't like, wherever I *found* them was irrelevant, still is.

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None ofmy friendsaer completely neurotypical... one has AD/HD, onehas dyspraxia, one has ADD,one has Kanners Autism. So we all kinda stick together. I dont really enjoy hanging out with NT's of my age group (14), particularly girls. I prefer to hang around with boys, as they are less quick to judge, and they are less picky, and can put up with someone like me. out of the 4 i described, two are boys, and we get on great. if im with a normal girl of my age, i would just go bright red, and it would be best for me not to speak, as i would just say something about pokemon, harry potter, medicine, or music, which are basically my conversational limits. i am also thought of as weird, even by my ASD friends, as i say so many long and confusing words!

yeah its weird these are the ones that stand out to me but i also have a wonderful girlfriend with adhd but definitely has some aspie traits i get along with her very well most of the time but when we do fight its insane! she gets my weird sense of humor i also have some quirky nt friends but those are the ones i get long with. i don't talk to the sociopath/narcissist anymore though lol

My friends are not NT's. They are like me.

Through my lifetime I have become friends with many kinds of different people.
Friendship with stereotypical nts(maade during the last 5 years) doesnt last, we have different ideas on almost every aspect and for some reason they usually feel the need to ridiculize mine so its hard to keep that kind of friendship.


Friendship with nts made more than 5 years ago: this group pretty much consists on 5-6 friends I have that are children of my parents friends, we used to hang out together as childs and every now and them we gather and talk, its fun.


Friendship with classmates etc: Im pretty much forced to make some sort of relationships at university in order to do some group work and that kind of stuff so I force myself to be nice to almost every classmate and we stablish a "friendship" its mostly supperficial but it does the work. They get someone who can help them with studies and I get some sort of support that helps me get through the classes.


Friendship with outcasts: this is the most typical one, for example last year my bestfriend had anger management issues and most of the class loved making fun of him. The two others I hang out with last year at school were the oldest in our class 21 both and we had different issues but we made an effort to support each other.

i thought i'd add something, too.
i consider everyone on here my friend, its great that people are so quickly accepted on WrongPlanet for who they really are. its a site one can truly express themself on.

Yes, well, I'd like to consider you all as friends too - I certainly talk to you more than I do to anyone else.

Except my partner, that is - she's been on my side through diagnosis and the getting back on my feet stage that followed it, and is still the only real friend I have.

I consider two of my acquaintance to be friends.

My best friend is bipolar and gifted. I've met her when I was 12 and we were part of the "Dead Nerd Society" (in French it was called "CID" like the tragicomedy Le Cid, and in English it was called DNS like Domain Name System lol).
She was always depressed because she was not popular and still dislike it but in fact she is friend with almost everyone... Just does not like the fact that she is not their boss or the center of their attention.

She is still a nice girl, very intelligent, I enjoy debating with her though we tend to have a different point of view.

My second friend is the most intelligent person I ever met, it was only 2 years ago and I did not think we would become such great friends but I just love her personality. She is brilliant, she seems to be normal but she is very shy and seems to have difficulties keeping friends from what she said.


My other "friends" are generally depressed people or nerds. They have been bullied in high school too, one of them has a genetic disease which made her almost blind, another one is absorbed by his interest in literature. I've also had a friend who was mythomanic and another one who has schizophrenia.

I do not go along with "normal people", I really tend to like people who have a strange life or a disorder.

I wish I knew some people with AS!

My friends are all either gay, bipolar or some other variant of not quite normal

Just invisible here

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Not many... one friend who is a lot like I am, but NT. We "click" well. The other I've just written off 'cuz she seems loony.

Aside from that, people who are close to me-my boyfriend, mom, stepdad, and my boyfriend's family. I don't really think they can count as friends, but I've hit a point where I'll include them anyway, lol.

I have a lot of acquaintances-people I talk to here and there and that is about it. Those are nice-not high maintenance, no planning of things involved-it's nice.