NT's scared of us?

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Really? In what way?

I hate a friend say similarly about me. He could scare people by being able to "read" them instantly. He could tell you about your upbringing, your relationships, everything. But he couldn't read me. He said I came across as reserved and naive, but some comments I made speak the exact opposite and the two create a contradiction he couldn't puzzle out. I do wonder if sometimes this is the root of unease in many people toward aspies. They can't do that instant social take-off they can with most people. I think I worry most people, because my behaviour is so different.

Exactly what Storm said to Jubilee in the first episode of X-Men.

I've come to realize that--due to our overall inability to register body language vibes from people and/or give them off--we pretty much come off to most people as creepy and disturbing as Gordon Jump did as the child molester from the episode of Diff'rent Strokes "the Bicycle Man"; No, I'm not saying we're as bad as child molesters...but I'm saying we come off as creepy as that; at least I think we do.

there have been plenty of examples on the forums look around and you will find plenty of examples.. People have announced they are on the spectrum to gain understanding, and the person will just use that against them and such. That and with media portrayal and such, they wont necessarily understand. They can in fact believe you to be even more of a problem. It all depends upon the individual. Hell, people have lost partners and friends over announcing it so really. Hell, people have gotten physically and mentally beaten over it as well.
Hell, announcing it can prevent you from getting a job, or make work hell until you either rage and get fired or simply quit.

I definitely don't prescribe to the rose colored glasses/optimism for a reason. People who believe humanity is inheritantly good, those people baffle me. I prescribe to the "humans are complete bastards/Humans are neutral" train of thought. And really,people may not like pessimism, but it does work, as its toughened me up to get through these BS situations.

I've been told that I was "scary", "weird", and "psychotic" (the last one by some kid in middle school) before. Why do we frighten you? I don't see why others are scared of us, I mean, we're people right?

It's always been different for me for a few reasons. First I'm only 17, so my interactions are very different from the majority of the site. Second, I have very good social skills for an Aspy (about average for a Neurotypical because I constantly train myself every day of the past 5 years), so I really only tell them but explains the occasional incident that they would otherwise not understand. Third, I always talk about it as a gift and a curse (Gift because of the intelligence), and so I'm not portraying it as a disability. Finally, I do a lot of work with kids with medium-lower functioning autism, and since it's usually brought up in that context, people view it as a good thing and are impressed at how I use it to help others.