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23 Aug 2010, 7:00 am

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Parents, word of warning . . . YOU DON'T ALWAYS KNOW BEST. If you can't listen to your kids, you have no business telling them what to do (sorry for sounding harsh).


EXACTLY! THIS!

Anyway, here's my list:

"I understand you" - no you don't, you have no idea how I think and feel, how can you when I don't even know?

"You're really smart" (or some variation) - no I'm not, I'm no more intelligent than the general populous, and if you think IQ tests mean anything, I did a few that proved it

"I don't treat you like a kid" - yes you do, every single day and every single minute we're in the same room, you treat me like some lower life form

"I'll treat you like an adult when you act like one" - yeah right, I could be a most intellectual 16 year old ever and you'd still treat me like a 6 year old


Oh Yes! And this tendency to think that because you are younger than them you are always wrong and whenever you disagree with them you hear "You are acting like a 12 years old, you know nothing of life"... Of course, I am 20 years old, I do not share your beliefs, I use logical and rational arguments and you were the one who never believed me when I told you I was rejected by other kids because I was not popular but just a nerd (because high school is so not a society) but I am totally wrong. :lol:

By the way, explaining to your parents how you work and how they should treat you to obtain goos results does not work and make you become a "stupid teenager" :roll:
(Mine are always yelling at me when I do something wrong or when they want me to do something because they assume I am a stupid teenager who will not do it or will fail at doing it properly and well, yelling just makes me... stop, I do not know how to explain this, it is just like I am having a panick attack and can no longer move and I become nervous and aggressive. I do not understand the need to threaten a child or a young adult to slap them just because you have no authority and dislike the fact that they see it) :lol:


Exactly. Any disagreements are put down to "I'm older than you, so I'm better, and I'm always right." They don't even bother to act and think rationally, because as far as they're concerned, they don't need to; we're scum because we happen to be younger. We don't have opinions or a say in anything. Adults are so pathetic it's unbelievable.

I'm gonna get them back for it one day. When they're old and they're the ones that need looking after, and I'm the one that's expected to help look after them, I'll treat them like idiots. See how they like it.



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23 Aug 2010, 9:57 am

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"Your artwork is so great, you could be a professional artist!"

Yet when I post it online, I get criticized and told I'm not very good. No doubt I've improved over the years, but I'm still a far cry from being a "professional". To make it worse, when I show my parents examples of amateur artists whose work actually is good enough to be considered professional, their response is something along the lines of "I'm sure that artist stole/traced/copied it from someone else."

My mom and brother also say they like my style of art because they think it's "unique", whereas I think it's kind of a generic cartoonish anime style. Whenever I try to tweak my drawing style, they discourage it because they feel that the way I draw is part of who I am.

The way I see it, either I'm being way too hard on myself or they're being way too soft.


You don't think professionals don't ever get criticized for their paintings or drawings?

It's possible your family is biased.



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23 Aug 2010, 9:58 am

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Oh...I thought you meant food :S



I also thought the same thing :lol:



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23 Aug 2010, 10:09 am

League_Girl wrote:
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"Your artwork is so great, you could be a professional artist!"

Yet when I post it online, I get criticized and told I'm not very good. No doubt I've improved over the years, but I'm still a far cry from being a "professional". To make it worse, when I show my parents examples of amateur artists whose work actually is good enough to be considered professional, their response is something along the lines of "I'm sure that artist stole/traced/copied it from someone else."

My mom and brother also say they like my style of art because they think it's "unique", whereas I think it's kind of a generic cartoonish anime style. Whenever I try to tweak my drawing style, they discourage it because they feel that the way I draw is part of who I am.

The way I see it, either I'm being way too hard on myself or they're being way too soft.


You don't think professionals don't ever get criticized for their paintings or drawings?

It's possible your family is biased.

Well no, I do realize that even the pros get criticized - it's just that I know that mine isn't up to par because I'm always having trouble with things like anatomy, proportions and perspective, etc. and I'm reminded of that by objective strangers when I post my work online. I know I'm not the worst artist around, but I'm not as good as my family thinks I am.

I agree that my family is possibly biased. See, drawing is the only hobby that I've pursued consistently throughout the years, and it's one of my few passions in life. I think my family is afraid of discouraging me if they criticize me because they don't want me to stop doing something I love.



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23 Aug 2010, 10:24 am

"Your dad is just out of town." This was a cover-up for the divorce that happened when I was 1.5 years old. I waited at the window for him to come home. When I was six, a church leader was teaching us about marriage and divorce and that's when I figured it out. I was so upset that mom lied to me and that dad wasn't coming home ever that I attempted suicide via a pair of sharp scissors to the throat. My brother stopped me so I didn't get hurt. He didn't know what I was doing and I never told him.

"If you lose your virginity before marriage, you'll lose your happy home." Not to mention she said she'd cut off the financial support. D:

"You should have alcohol only with a meal, otherwise you're a lush." Says the woman who drinks before she goes to bed some nights. :/

"When you write a best selling book, you'll build a whole wing for me on your house right?" GEEZ. I'm really tired of this one. She's been saying this since third grade. It's a lot of pressure to put on a girl. I'm afraid I'll fail and she won't love me anymore. D:



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23 Aug 2010, 10:26 am

Erisad wrote:
"When you write a best selling book, you'll build a whole wing for me on your house right?" GEEZ. I'm really tired of this one. She's been saying this since third grade. It's a lot of pressure to put on a girl. I'm afraid I'll fail and she won't love me anymore. D:


I get a similar thing from my mum, "when you're rich you'll buy me a house in the country side, right?"

Luckily, I think she's just joking. I hope so, anyway.



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23 Aug 2010, 10:29 am

Asp-Z wrote:
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"When you write a best selling book, you'll build a whole wing for me on your house right?" GEEZ. I'm really tired of this one. She's been saying this since third grade. It's a lot of pressure to put on a girl. I'm afraid I'll fail and she won't love me anymore. D:


I get a similar thing from my mum, "when you're rich you'll buy me a house in the country side, right?"

Luckily, I think she's just joking. I hope so, anyway.


I hope so too. A writer needs to have three best sellers (if they're not JK Rowling) in order to support themselves. D:



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23 Aug 2010, 10:37 am

My Dad always said "Do as I say, not as I do!" 8O

And the one I never got, "Sticks and stones may break your bones, but names can never hurt you." YES THEY CAN!! !! !! !! :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:



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23 Aug 2010, 10:38 am

Duplicated



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23 Aug 2010, 10:39 am

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23 Aug 2010, 11:02 am

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My Dad always said "Do as I say, not as I do!" 8O


I hate that one, it's just an excuse for them setting a bad example.



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23 Aug 2010, 11:03 am

"You shouldn't have sex until you are married." Uh my mom had sex with her fiancee before she met my dad and she was having sex with my dad before they were married.

"You won't be able to wear tampons until after you have sex." Turns out even virgins can wear them. What was my mom thinking and my aunt? :roll:

Stretchmarks "They go away." Yeah right, what she meant was they fade and they turn into white lines, they may fade a lot they will be harder to see and some may turn into white lines and always be noticable. They will always be there, just not the color.



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23 Aug 2010, 11:13 am

Tripe, and black and white pudding. White pudding if you don't know is made out of the "lights", or lungs of the animal. Tripe is the slimy inner lining of a calves stomach.

Not surprising I don't eat meat anymore!



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23 Aug 2010, 11:45 am

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"You shouldn't have sex until you are married." Uh my mom had sex with her fiancee before she met my dad and she was having sex with my dad before they were married.

"You won't be able to wear tampons until after you have sex." Turns out even virgins can wear them. What was my mom thinking and my aunt? :roll:

Stretchmarks "They go away." Yeah right, what she meant was they fade and they turn into white lines, they may fade a lot they will be harder to see and some may turn into white lines and always be noticable. They will always be there, just not the color.


My mother has said all of these. I still don't wear tampons out of fear that she'll assume that I'm not a virgin anymore. D:



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23 Aug 2010, 11:46 am

When I told my mom I had trouble connecting with people romantically and still hadn't kissed anyone at the age of 21, my brother laughed at me :oops: She told him it was okay to be picky and not just go for anyone.

But there's a difference between picky and not relating to 90% of humanity...



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23 Aug 2010, 11:52 am

"You can be anything you want to be except a priest or a daddy."