Found my bully........

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As an adult I would say that wanting to beet three kinds of poo out of your former bully if perfecly understandable. I was bullied at school and now I'm living about 200 yards from where he lives. The days that i want to punch him are so many. I just know that I'd loose so much for doing it.
I'm just happy that I'm the one with a Masters degree in Engineering and he's 19 with a kid and living with his mum.
You can never forget the hurt they caused you . You just have to weigh up the happiness that punching him will bring you over the pain that being in prison will cause.

The best revenge is living well.

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It seems to me that in a legit world there would be severe legal repercussions for bullying even as a child. I don't get the whole societal attitude that children are inherently "innocent" and can't be legally punished for assaulting other children like adults are. This world is not fair and I can understand why you might still feel rage against this individual. I would hope though that just the thought that you theoretically *could* kick this persons ass can assuage your anger so you don't have to act on it.

As others have said there really is no way you can "win" in this world by acting on such a fantasy. No matter how it turns out you will be in a world of trouble. The real world doesn't operate like a Hollywood western or action drama where vigilante justice prevails. I suppose that's why people will watch them, so they can vicariously identify with actions that simply aren't allowed in this modern world.

What everyone here forgets is that school bullies grow up to become workplace bullies, and deterring them via some form of revenge might be a good thing for everyone involved. That said, I did get revenge on a bully back in high school, and that didn't seem to dent their ruthless personality one bit.

I plan to get back at all of my bullies by going to high school reunions and showing off how successful I have been since highschool.

Though I too have gained the skills necessary to inflict any sort of physical punishment that I can imagine on my former tormentors, it is no longer worth it.

I definitely understand the sentiment--I ran into my rapist online, found out he is apparently friends with a BUNCH of people I'm friends with. Although I'm lucky not to have run into him in person, the temptation to post s**t and trash him to his new girlfriend, his friends, etc was really powerful. I just blocked him. It was easiest.

Still dreading the day when I have to see him in person, though...hopefully that won't happen but sometimes the possibility keeps me from doing stuff I want to do.

I found as an Adult that it is hard to forgive than to forget the bullies that made my life hell at school even though they may have grown up and have a family of their own and are living a forfilled and happy life. But I find it hard that they can easily forget what they have done and the pychological effect they have put me through and say that people forget and move on. I find that hard to come to terms with I feel that if a bully makes fun of you that they should pay for what they have done and let them know even though the bullying happened years ago I will never forget the bullying and the months of therapy with a counceller and phychologist to get over it due to the severaty of the bullying it made me feel alittle better having one of the bullys expelled from my school and another suspended and a bunch of others with days of detention but that doesn't teach the bullies that what they are doing is wrong and it does hurt the person that they are bullying and give them a lifetime phychological issues like I have. I still at my age get bullied by people because of me being different and thats the issue today if anyone is at least outside the box as the saying goes or acts alittle out of the ordinary, people start having ago at you and think its fun which personally to me is sick it is the unknown people just don't know how to take you and in reality they are really quiet scared of you and don't know how to take you so they start making fun of you. I have neighbours making fun of me due to me not being able to handle certain situations and they just don't like me some of them don't even know me but have made a judgement from an appearence and at what gossip or rumours other people have told them about me. People have told me that the situation that happened to me many years ago in school should be left in the past and that I should move on how can I when the bullying was so servere and had such a phychological effect on me. Its not just the usual harassment name calling, laughing at you and what you wear, yelling out silly comments at you and throwing stuff at you. This is them entering my property, damaging my property and my friends property such as a car leaving rubbish at my front door, throwing up on my back veranda and putting cigerette butts on my back veranda and bottle tops on my back veranda the police won't do anything because their relative happens to work at the police station and has taken sides with their relative and hates me and thinks the world of their relative even if that relative is the main troublemaker and bully. Ive hit a dead end I have done everything that people have told me to do and have Ignored them but there is so much you can Ignore before you snap and I have been to the police and they have done nothing.

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I found a lot of them on Facebook, and to be honest, many of them asked to add me, and some I added.

Before you jump at me about this, please do understand that since high school I've met people so bad that they make the people I dealt with from high school seem like a lame April Fools Joke...albeit poorly executed.

So, I really didn't care, and have them on there. Some of them have matured a bit which is cool; some still make asses of themselves, but they don't bother going after me anymore, or anything.

The thing for you folks is that it almost sounds like just a few people started up with you; in my case, I was generally disliked--period--by my classmates. So ya had the teachers and the unpopular students pretty much in the bully's favor, though the former obviously wouldn't admit it.

One thing I notice is most of them are still where they were before; I'm one of the few that's really gone on to do great things with my life. Most of them have photos on Facebook with beers and all that; yes...very attractive to most businesses they're likely looking to get jobs with.

The cool thing is several of them did join the fan page my partner and I made dedicated to our business.

Don't ruin your life....the bully is NOT worth it. You can try and sue him though...even just having to go to court to defend himself may be enough...because it will cost him lawyer fees.