What aspects of your Aspergers do you hate?

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Comorbid OCD and DSPS. I like being a night owl but it would be nice to not always struggle with sleep pattern.

Poor executive function, one link has to be missing, I can plan, I can see the result, but it is really hard to get there. It sure doesn't help I also have chronic fatigue.

Normally executive function and poor emotional life.

Actually I managed to feign a sort of self realized aspie thing on the weekend, for a while there, I felt almost enlightened, at peace and very comfortable in myself.

I have obsessions that I master to a very high level, before moving on to another.

Without an obsession I am a bit lost and depressed, in the throws of mastering my pet activity, I am usually my happiest.

I spent time saturday and sunday sitting on sofas in a club environment, also playing pool and table tennis. Everyone there is high on cannabis, so I fit in better, am less anxious, and since informing others there about my AS, much more accepted. This 'family' environment has been very good for me emotionally.

Anyway while feeling included, playing pool and socialising, I realised that if I could direct my obsessions in a useful way, I could become very successful working on my dreams. I felt incredibly empowered by this.

some sensory issues:

i do not like being distracted by spinning things. ceiling fans annoy me because i have the urge to look up at them, and i must avoid looking at them so i do not collide with things on the floor.

spinning hubcaps on wheels of other cars on the road are distracting, and i must resist the urge to look at them lest i collide with other traffic.
anything that spins is a magnet for my attention, and if i look at it, then my attention is sucked into it and find it hard to retract my attention from it.

i do not like "on-off" sensations that happen in rapid succession. when i am driving along a tree lined road on a sunny day, the shadows cast over the road are extremely unsettling to me. the glare is "on..off...............on...............off..on..off..on..off...........on...........offonoffonoffon.......off" etc. i seem to get an internal itch that can not be scratched and i become hypersensitive to the stimulus and it almost hurts.

today i was at an intersection and i saw a car that interested me on the other side of the intersection, and i was stopped at the lights. the cross traffic was heavy, and every time i started to look atthe car, a vehicle that was crossing blocked my view. then i could see it again, and then a crossing semi trailer blocked my view for a second and then i could see it again for 1/4 second and then a car blocked my view etc.

so i could "see...not see.............see...not see....................see...not see........seenotseeseenotseeseenotsee.......see...not see" and i became giddy, so i had to look away and forget about trying to look at the car i was interested in. i am not epileptic or anything, but i just felt a wild annoyance at it that overwhelmed me and made me feel strange.

It's not so much the Asperger's but the effects. I dislike being rubbish at getting girlfriends, always feeling alone, being unable to translate my intelligences and talents into achievement and/or material rewards.

*sigh*
I hate that no matter how hard I try to fit in, people always think something odd or (more often) negative of me. I'm terrified of making social faux pas..es. Also, I'm a very honest person, and people tend to take advantage of me and I'm often hurt by people. I'm also afraid that friends will eventually hurt me, which is a very often occurrence, whether they realize it or not. Many friendships and relationships have ended because somebody has done something that has hurt me so badly that I can't get past it (and I'm rather prone to second and third chances, so it's gotta be bad D: ).

These things combined make me fear I'll be alone for the rest of my life ;__;


Also, I'm unable to eat many things, including vegetables and fruits. I want to, but the smell, taste, and texture are overwhelming. Just the smell of some things can drive me to the brink of vomiting. *siiiiigh*

I hate that I'm anti social; it holds me back when doing presentations at school.

Being so poor at office politics, it's really held me back career-wise, and as a consequence I'm less financially secure than I otherwise might have been.

Oh, and executive dysfunction in my personal life, being so crap with budgeting and personal administration, which is weird, because if I have an admin job, I can do all that stuff when operating in the framework of a job in an organisation, but I just can't do it for myself at home.

Socializing
lack of empathy
being taken advantage of
social anxiety

If I could take a pill to cure those symptoms but keep the positive traits of autism intact, I would gladly do so.

i dont like this thread.... very self-defeating

I don't really hate the AS, but I do hate some of the co-morbid problems that come with it. I can see the positives in my different ways of thinking and looking at the world, but I have yet to see an upside to:

Depression
Insomnia
Anxiety
Migraines
Stomach upset

Other than those things, I have no complaints.

I hate that I'm lonely. I'm lonely because people don't like me, though, and I don't want to change who I am, so it's a bit of a paradox really.

Overall, I see my Asperger's as a very good thing, and I, like the OP, am glad I don't get drunk every night and do all the other crap NTs do to kill... Err, I mean, entertain themselves.

I dislike that the part of me that is most creative and most productive requires that I drop the scripting and pretense and slip into a more autistic set of behaviors. If I allow my mind to go where it operates best, I am far less communicative, much more likely to stim, more unaware of my appearance, less interested in my environment - effectively more autistic in appearance and behavior. I dislike this not so much because I don't like going there, but going there causes negative reactions from NTs and those negative reactions have a material impact on my life.

So I guess what I dislike most is that I am disliked for what I AM, even though it cannot be changed, only masked by a veneer of acceptable behaviors.

I hate that people who meet me automatically judge me as stupid and not all there because my body language and speech are odd. This makes things like getting through a job interview seem impossible.

The thing I hate most is my sensory issues. They're probably worse than my social problems. They often determine where I go, when I go, and what I do; for example, if I need groceries I have to go to the store very early to avoid the crowd. And no amount of time or practice or therapy is going to make them much better.

Definitely sensory issues, a lot of trouble sleeping!! !

And being clumsy. I'm very scared of knifes and stairs.

But worst for me is that I feel disconnected from 95% of society. I can't imagine how 2 people meet and fall in love. I never feel that degree of connection with people and, on the off chance I do, they never like me in return.