How many girls are there on here with AS? And...

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I know that we tend to seem more immature during our high school/middle school years to other neurotypical girls, and that we could understand the social world better than guys with Asperger's can. I've read that we could also mask our feelings better, and that we can copy other other people's facial expressions. It's still just as confusing as a world at times for both guys and girls on the spectrum, however.

Yes! The mental checklist. Works every time!

*enter staffroom, see line manager, smile, say hi, ask how weekend was, discuss weather, put stuff in locker...*

Ahem.

Yes.

Regarding stereotypes...

Research has recently indicated that girls are better than boys at understanding the internet and email and all of those kinds of things. Which basically negates the idea men are better than women with computers ^_^ at least to some degree. I wish the customers at work believed that...

Regarding NTs and fitting in/peer pressure...

I have never understood this. I admit I have some insecurities about dress because of how badly it was drilled into my brain growing up (NOT by my family, I hasten to add, but in that evil world called Secondary School!). I'm only now realising I actually CAN wear what I like and NOT have to worry about consequences for it...sad, isn't it?)

But I hate people who have to do something just because someone said it must be cool. Like people who have mobile phones attached to their hands and cannot stop fidgeting with them. Like people who take up smoking or get drunk or take drugs because their friends/television/something told them it was 'the in thing' to do. People who copy other people's hairstyles exactly or go on this or that diet because a magazine told them to do it. Fashion magazines that rate and slate people's 'looks' based on their own narrow preconceptions of dress as opposed to what the person maybe feels happiest wearing. Yeesh, I could go on for a long, long time on that subject. One of the hardest things about growing up female and aspie (for me) is the fact I don't want anything to do with any of that.

My best friend is big and paranoid about her size some of the time. She asked me the other day what I thought when I first met her (we first got in touch online through a collecting community but have been real life friends for 5 years now). I told her I just thought 'oh, there she is' and that was it. I've never looked at her as a big person - I'm only conscious of it because she talks about it and is anxious about it from time to time. To me she's just my friend who I have a laugh hanging out with and who doesn't care that I'm Aspie :S

Obviously, being hopelessly biased, I consider my outlook more sensible than the copycat routine. But not being a part of that routine is the ultimate way NT girls cut Aspie girls out of things.

I DO think girls and boys have different challenges to face in being Aspie. But I guess it depends whether you manifest as a 'girly' aspie or not

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I'm an aspie girl and have a mixture of typical and atypical characteristics. I'm imaginative and love literature, and my perseverations have been things like the Middle Ages, the Iroquois Indians etc., as opposed to the more typical computers and vehicles. I've always been highly tomboyish. I do not like babies and small children. I tend to imitate other people in order to seem normal and have gotten quite good at this- I call it "acting so-and-so."

I give off a very Austin Powersish appearence, but without the bad Teeth, which I'm very proud of.
I've been obsessed with London and her three main colours of Red, Black and Grey since I was Eleven.
I've been obsessed with the beautiful, monsterous Routemasters, since I was in that Non-College Programme, 13 years ago.
I've always wanted a chance to wear the Uniform of a Male Bobby, for a day.
I'm very strong for a Woman, yet my Family refuses to look past my AS Label, or my Cockney Accent, in order to notice my Physical Strength.
I'd rather be hopping on and off the last of the Routemasters through Central London, than going to the Beach to half-dressed Guys show off their Steriod-induced Muscels. Routemasters are much more attractive.
I'd love to dress like a Pearly King and call myself a "Pearly Drag King".
I'd rather touch a Hackney Carriage than the Six-Pack of some desprate Male Beach Bum.
I've never worn Make-up in my life. It would only give me unwanted Male Attention.
I'd rather dominate a Man, than have him dominate me.
I'm obsessed with Mods, Rockers and Punk Rockers.
I speak with very Polished Grammar. My Accent, which I'm very proud of, isn't so Polished.

how enjoyable! I'll have to try that some day.



I don't really enjoy a day at the beach all that much either. All those perfect people and all the insects, oo, and I hate wearing a bikini/bading suite; wet, tight, awful fabric against skin. Sunshine makes me happy, but I'm not so fond of sunbading. I like knowing that the sun is out. Yay sun!
Whenever I'm at the beach, I usually spend my whole day reading about something I find interesting. Oh, and I always bring my iPod to block out all the screaming and shouting.
Swimming is rather nice if there are no other people in the water, but then that never happens. And also; I hate getting water in my ears, eyes and mouth. I don't in particular enjoy getting my hair wet either.
The sand feels kind of nice though.
But I agree; Routmasters are much more atrractive than Steriod-induces muscels.